This is You - The Podcast

Jan 08 2020 34 mins

As our journeys unfold, so do our identities. What makes you, you? This podcast provides a safe space for guests to explore how concepts, themes and life events shape who they are, how they define themselves and what what this means for their lives going forward.









Jawad Shuaib and Character
Jun 26 2019 55 mins  
Episode 8: In today's episode, I talk to long-time friend Jawad Shuaib who is the founder of Budget Electronics - a company he runs alongside his wife. Jawad is an avid reader, and is interested in learning everything; from science, mathematics, economics to anthropology, philosophy, and religion.⠀ We explore character, how it develops, from where it's shaped and tackle a whole bunch of interesting questions like:⠀ Is character defined primarily before the age of 5 based on your parents and your environment?⠀ Is character the deep rooted stuff and personality a reflection of your changing perspectives?⠀ How easy or difficult is it to tell someone's character? What gives us clues or insight into it? ⠀ Why is it easier to say the bad things about us and so difficult for us to say the positives about ourselves?⠀ Do friendships based on perspective alone eventually wither? What keeps friendships together?⠀ Why is it so difficult to accept compliments?⠀ Is being emotionally intelligent a curse?⠀ Has Jawad hurt me in a profound way?⠀ How did watching Jurassic Park in 1994 play a huge role in how Jawad ended up being the way he is?⠀ What plays a stronger role, nurture vs. nature?⠀ What does it mean to deliberately parent?⠀ What is the balance between encouraging your kids in their interests and forcing them?⠀ and much, much more. We also invite you to listen to the episode and tell us what adjectives you would use to describe Jawad's character. It can be so hard to say positive things about ourselves, so what traits do you see in him? Feel free to message me on Facebook, Instagram or email me your thoughts. This conversation gets very philosophical. Jawad also recommends a bunch of books throughout the conversation which are linked here for your convenience! Recommended Books: Brag!: The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn without Blowing It by Peggy Klaus Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald Lord of the Flies by William Golding Mentioned Movies: Jurassic Park October Sky



Jenn Taylor Part 2, Taking Back Control
Jun 19 2019 38 mins  
Episode 7, Part 2: In today's episode, I continue my conversation with Jenn Taylor, Mom of 18 but switch gears a bit to focus on taking back control of our lives. We continue the conversation with Jenn responding to my comment that each generation tries to do better than the generation before when it comes to parenting and how we can overcompensate at times without even realizing it. Jenn talks about how she's very deliberate about how she chooses to parent, describes her eureka moment when she realized that the traditions she started with her family could be anything she wanted it to be and when she realized she does have control over her attitude and how much she let's the past influence her actions today. We talk about the challenges of parenting in the current age of electronics and why it can be so hard to set rules and stick to them. Jenn shares how she works backwards from what tools she wants her kids to have and then looks for ways to build them as well as how giving her daughter the choice to cut ties with her during a particularly challenging time actually led to her daughter opening up about how she was feeling and them coming closer together. In my mind, two quotes kept coming up, one is the serenity prayer, which I almost always butcher in the moment but goes like this: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." by Reinhold Niebuhr and "“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” by Carl Jung. You can connect with Jenn by: Visiting her blog: Mom of 18 Listening to her podcast: The Naked Podcaster Reading her memoir: Hello, My Name Is.... Warrior Princess Following her on Instagram and Facebook To connect with me, feel free to message me on Instagram, Facebook or send me an email. I'll actually be featured on Jenn's podcast in the upcoming weeks so check that out too!


Jenn Taylor Part 1, Influential People
Jun 12 2019 53 mins  
Episode 7, Part 1: How does trauma change us and how can people through the simplest of actions be our shining light? Today's guest is blogger, podcaster and virtual assistant, Jenn Taylor who is a mom of 18 kids as well as a published author. In this special 2 part episode, part 1 focuses on three influential people in Jenn's life: her third grade teacher, her mother and someone she lovingly refers to as her adopted dad. These three play a profound role in how Jenn chooses to parent her 18 kids and her blended family, how she establishes boundaries for herself and in experiencing as well as dealing with past trauma such as rape, infertility, molestation, and more. Listen in to part 1 of this inspiring story.⠀⠀One quote that kept coming to mind in part 1 is by Mitch Albom from the 5 People You Meet in Heaven, he says: “All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.” In part 1, Jenn talks about the imprints that are left on her but in part 2 (releases next week) she talks about how she repaired those past hurts and how takes back control of her life so that only she gets to define who she is today.⠀ You can connect with Jenn by: Visiting her blog: Mom of 18 Listening to her podcast: The Naked Podcaster Reading her memoir: Hello, My Name Is.... Warrior Princess Following her on Instagram and Facebook




Auroosa Kazmi-Ishaq and The Myth of the Linear Path
May 29 2019 14 mins  
Episode 5: Were you brought up with the worldview that "mastering perfectionism, progress and ever-exceeding improvement would lead to success, security and happiness?" - Daniëlle van de Kemenade. I was. I believed that if I followed all the steps "correctly", (went to school, got good grades, got a job, got married, etc.) then I would find happiness and success. I believed that life proceeds in an orderly, linear fashion and I just need to find the magic formula and follow it to find success...and perhaps more importantly, avoid failure. But in reality, this idea is a myth. Careers are progressively more and more non-linear and happiness is not a final destination that we reach once we've surpassed enough milestones. Have you ever felt that every time you reached a milestone, instead of celebrating it, you lamented that you hadn't reached the next milestone yet? That used to be me.⠀ A few years ago, I realized that that 1) the linear path is a myth, success and happiness is not a straight line but a squiggly one that goes in every which direction, 2) there is no such thing as doing things "right", everyone follows a different path and what works for one person, doesn't work for another person, 3) every step we take is just a data point in our journey which will help us to make future decisions and learn from our failures and mistakes, it's not the end of the world and 4) no matter what you do, there is no way to avoid the risk of failure, making a mistake or defeat. What's important is to be in the arena: striving, risking and daring greatly. Listen in to hear about my experience.




Sania Khan and Auroosa Kazmi Ishaq, Diary of 2 Middle Children, Part 1
May 15 2019 41 mins  
Episode 4, Part 1: Does birth order influence our personalities? Both my guest, Sania Khan, and I are middle children and feel that being a middle child plays a fundamental role in how we experience and view the world. In this episode, we discuss middle child syndrome and how being a middle child has led to certain tendencies such as people pleasing, wanting to be peacemakers, feeling neglected and trying to figure out our role in our families. In particular, I think I equated being a middle child with being less loved or less worthy and it took me a long time to realize that that wasn't the case. But where did this feeling come from to begin with? Listen in to this episode to learn where some of these ideas came from, how they were perpetuated and how I began to see things differently as I became a parent. People pleasing is another aspect of our personalities that can affect so many of our everyday choices, how do you break free of the desire to please everyone else and live life on your own terms? Sania and I discuss our journey and what we still struggle with today. We also tackle topics such as why the process of arranged marriage can be difficult as a middle child, choosing a different path from the ones our siblings paved for us, embracing ourselves with self-love, and how it influences us going forward. This is part one of a really funny, insightful and interesting conversation. You won't want to miss this one!


Thamicha Isaac, H.I.V. and Abuse
May 08 2019 63 mins  
Episode 3: How does abuse become normalized? Hear Thamicha's gripping story where she discusses the various levels of abuse she has experienced including domestic and sexual abuse as well as being diagnosed as H.I.V. positive at the age of 19. She describes the impact of her H.I.V. diagnosis, how she received the news, how it made her feel and the feelings of anger, guilt and shame that she experienced. She also explains how she made it out from rock bottom, her process of healing and how she became the CEO and Founder of Openly Positive, an organization that strives to end the stigma around H.I.V. and provide support for those with H.I.V. and their families. Thamicha Isaac is an activist, advocate, motivational speaker, coach, author and momtrepreneur. Be inspired and moved by her story which reminds us that no matter how dire things may seem, or the trauma that you may have experienced, there is hope on the other side. The tunnel does have a light. To learn more about openly positive for resources related to H.I.V. and Thamicha's speaking engagements, please visit: www.openlypositive.com. You can also follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/Openlypositive/ and on https://www.instagram.com/Miizmisha721/. For resources on H.I.V. for those living in Ontario, please visit: http://www.hivresourcesontario.ca/about/For resources on domestic violence and abuse, please visit: http://www.women.gov.on.ca/owd/english/ending-violence/help.shtml and https://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/en/mcss/programs/community/helpingWomen/index.aspx To keep up to date with This is You, please follow us on Instagram and Facebook.




Terri Fry and Religion
May 01 2019 48 mins  
Episode 2: Has religion played a role in shaping your identity? It has for our guest Terri Fry. Terri grew up in Pakistan with her dad's side of the family who was very conservative and would often use religion as a tool to control her and her actions. On the flip side, her mom's side of the family was also very religious but practiced religion in a much more accepting and open manner, consistent with how Terri feels Islam should be practiced. Terri discusses several examples of how her extended family used religion as a tool, her chaotic upbringing, how it's affected how she views religion today and how it's shaped her in unexpected ways. She also discusses how she and her husband, who is Christian, are raising her two young boys with both Christianity and Islam and what that means to them. Terri is the founder of the Mom Like That Podcast where she interviews moms and dads about their experiences related to parenting, starting a side hustle and the challenges they have faced. She is also the co-creator of the instagram community @therealmamasofinsta. I have been a guest on Terri's podcast in the following episodes, so if you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out the following as well: Episode 4: Motherhood I Wasn't Prepared for This!, Episode 26: The Whole Brain Child Review and Episode 30: Interfaith Relationship: Past and Present. To hear personal narratives from others surrounding religion and their identity, check out this interesting excerpt from FacingHistory.org: https://www.facinghistory.org/holocaust-and-human-behavior/chapter-1/religion-and-identity.


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