The Confidence Podcast

Podcast #620MAKE MORE MISTAKES + FRUSTRATION TOLERANCEYou're a doer, and an achiever - you have high standards for yourself and you know that you're capable of so much. And you work hard. Like, really hard. So, when you make mistakes, especially avoidable mistakes, it hits you like. Like, super hard. You know it's okay to be human, but that's for other people - not for you, because you have big goals and a ton of potential. I get it and if any of this resonated with you, this episode is for you. In this episode I'm going to be coaching on how to make more mistakes - but with confidence. What you hear today will help you let go of mistakes more easily so that they no longer ruin your mood, your day or your week. We're also diving into how to leverage and increase your frustration tolerance to help you show up in the mistakes you do and will make with more authority.QUOTES ON MISTAKES: "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." – Albert Einstein"Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently." – Henry Ford"Your best teacher is your last mistake." – Ralph Nader"Don’t carry your mistakes around with you. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as stepping stones." – Unknown"I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." – Michael JordanWant to get more clients in your business?Grab access to my coaching program happening this week at:www.trishblackwell.com/getclientsThis week on the podcast we're covering:Mistakes Don’t Define You: How to Detach Your Self-Worth from PerfectionHow to Let Go of the Fear of Future MistakesFrustration tolerance and how to increase yoursMISTAKES ARE STEPPING STONESA shift in mindset can change the relationship people have with mistakes. Rather than seeing them asfailures, view mistakes as valuable learning experiences.Mistakes are part of the journey - even sloppy mistakes.Let's talk about sloppy ones:-the email you didn't double check-the calendar event you didn't set a reminder for-the over-scrolling, over-drinking or over-eating you feel so guilty over or about-the off-handed thing you said that ended up being hurtful or awkward-the deadline you missedEvery mistake has an opportunity within it.What am I not seeing here?What can I do differently?WHY ARE WE SO AFRAID?Fear of making mistakes is often linked to concerns about failure, judgment from others, or a sense of inadequacy.We have societal pressures to be perfect or constantly succeed, and these influences can exacerbate the fear of making errors.The brain is wired to avoid discomfort and mistakes are sometimes seen as a threat to self-worth.Once you know that all of these fears are unsubstantiated, you can stand more firmly against them and talk back to them.Challenge Your Inner CriticHonestly, what would happen if you questioned it?The inner critic can distort reality by overemphasizing the importance of mistakes and linking them to self-worth.Reframing thoughts like “I made a mistake, so I’m a failure” into “I made a mistake, which is normal, and I’m learning from it.”WHAT HAS HELPED ME:Accepting my humanity…and reflecting upon my faith (I can accept grace)Mistakes are inevitable and don't define youThe wisdom in the mistakes (there's gold in 'them hills)Redefined success, worth, happiness and what matters to meINCREASING YOUR FRUSTRATION TOLERANCE Frustration tolerance refers to a person’s ability to withstand frustration, stress, or setbacks without becoming overly upset or giving up. It is the capacity to endure difficult or uncomfortable situations while maintaining emotional control, patience, and persistence. People with high frustration tolerance can manage obstacles calmly and continue working toward their goals, while those with low frustration tolerance may become easily discouraged, irritable, or impulsive when things don’t go as planned.