Jul 12 2020 22 mins
- Do you really want to or is there a part of you that isn’t willing to let it go yet?
- Choosing to do this on purpose.
- Not waiting until you never look at porn to have the confidence to be a free person
- Commitment vs wanting – if you want something that doesn’t mean you will be able to get it.
- To want is to desire or wish for something – there is no action required – it is passive
- Wanting is really easy – all you have to do is think “I want this”
- There is no risk involved.
- It doesn’t require anything of us.
- Saying “I want to stop looking at porn” isn’t going to get it done
- It increases desire without any positive results – which can create a negative result in that you think you are doing something without results –
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- When we think we are doing something without results we are creating failures
- This is proof in our heads that we are failing.
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- When we want something but aren’t doing anything to get it we are creating a gap that our brain tells us is insurmountable.
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- When we are committed we promise to do something.
- Have you ever said to someone, “I’m going to get this done”. Whether is was, going into a certain profession or building something that you had no experience doing?
- As you go through that process, in your mind, you never waver.
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- You know it is going to happen no matter what.
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- That is committed.
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- Action is required – until you get to the place you want to be.
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- You aren’t waiting for it to happen before you believe in it.
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- Being committed is uncomfortable and challenging.
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- It also gets results
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- You will have to do things differently and think about circumstances differently
- You have to see the world differently than you do now to make that thing happen
- A really simple example of this in my life has been becoming a podcaster.
- I had no idea how to podcast 6 months ago.
- It wasn’t even on my radar.
- Then I wanted to be a podcaster because I thought it would be a great way to get the message out that there is help and there is a way forward for people who struggle.
- But that didn’t make me a podcaster.
- For months before I really committed to doing it I wanted it and I thought about it and I didn’t do it.
- Then I sat down and went through my “how to get stuff done” course again
- In that process I committed to getting my first podcast done.
- As part of this you will get the basics of the how to get stuff done course so you can begin the process of becoming committed to overcoming pornography.
- So as I sat down and actually laid out what I was committing to in a very specific way
- I changed from just wanting, which was easy to being committed by really defining what it would take to accomplish the goal of publishing my first 3 podcasts.
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- 100% commitment is easier than 98% commitment
- If you are wavering at all, if you think, “well, if I don’t get all the way there, that will be fine” –
- You have already lost.
- I know that sounds dire, and dramatic,
- Its true.
- People don’t go climb mt Everest to say, I got 98% of the way there.
- Being committed means that you are willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish the goal.
- That often means sacrificing something else in the process.
- People who climb mount Everest lose fingers and limbs and even their lives in the pursuit.
- You don’t have to loose a limb to overcome pornography, but that is still the kind of commitment you want to bring to the table
- Because it is the only way to make it all the way to the goal of being pornography free.
- I will do this regardless
- “jack canfield said: once you make a 100% commitment to something, there are no exceptions. It’s a done deal. Nonnegotiable. Case closed! Over and out.
- That doesn’t mean you will succeed tomorrow.
- What it means is that you will think about, write down, analyze, share, and execute everything that you can think of to get there.
- Then when you fall short, you do it again.
- And when you fall short again, you do it again.
- Over
- And over,
- And over
- Until you succeed.
- That was my mindset when I overcame pornography
- I knew I was unlearning something that I had taught myself over the course of years and so I knew it wasn’t coming undone in a day or two.
- I also knew that the only way I was going to fail is if I stopped trying to succeed.
- So I got smart about it.
- I got curious about it.
- I got committed about it.
- That is what you have to do.
- So, take some time. Don’t just make a snap decision,
- Think about the costs
- Think about the benefits.
- Write them down.
- Earnestly pray about whether you want to commit to this because it will not be easy
- Then let everyone you can in on your commitment.
- Be vocal about it.
- Be clear about it, to yourself and others.
- Then you will be ready.
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