Jul 30 2020 31 mins 109
Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, “I don’t like confrontation” when I suggest a boundary.
Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling.
In today’s show, I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four keys to setting healthy boundaries.
Listen to discover:
- The difference between a boundary and a confrontation
- Examples of healthy and unhealthy boundaries
- Four steps to setting boundaries
- What to do when boundaries backfire
- What boundaries are not and what to do if you are in a toxic relationship
Boundaries are rooted in our sense of self and come from our internal guidance system. They are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships and learning how to speak up for what we want. This show is filled with tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself, learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you.
“When I hear people say ‘It’s not important that I speak up for myself,’ or ‘I don’t need to set a boundary,’ I hear ‘I’m not that important.’” - Michelle Chalfant
“A boundary is letting another person know what is ok with you and what is not ok with you.” - Michelle Chalfant
“If you don’t know who you are, what in the world are you defending or setting a boundary against?” - Michelle Chalfant
“Get crystal clear with your wants, your needs and your desires and speak them.” - Michelle Chalfant
Resources
Episode #212: Boundaries Crash Course
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/212/
Episode #193: Boundaries in Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/193/
Episode #184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/184/
Episode #174: Building Self-Esteem
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/
Episode #173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/
Episode #160: Boundaries and Defenses
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/160
Episode #80: How Do I Feel My Emotions?
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/80
Episode #26: Boundaries vs. Confrontation
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/26
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The Adult Chair Website
The Adult Chair Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/
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