Happy Polydays - Polyamory and Toxic Masculinity with @polyamfam

Dec 13 2021 60 mins 25

A big part of polyamory is challenging one's core beliefs and insecurities, and one big thing polyamorous men struggle with is toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is a specific set of expectations and attitudes associated with men that have a negative impact on men's psyche as well as society as a whole, such as aggressive competitiveness and machismo, entitlement to and ownership of women's bodies, tying one's self-worth as a man to sexual performance, and so on. Today I speak with Chad (@polyamfam) about his unique experience and early struggles as a polyamorous man, and we hope that his story will help other men (and the people who date men) on their polyamorous journeys. We discuss:

- How to deal with competitiveness with other men, feeling like you "own" your girlfriend/wife, and tying one's self-worth to sex

- Dating struggles unique to polyamorous men and women, how to avoid comparisons with your female partner(s) on your respective dating lives, and possible reasons why women don't respond on dating apps

- How to introduce two male partners to each other in the least awkward way possible

and much more.

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