Jul 29 2021 79 mins
On our last episode which was part 1 of Paul and Mel's story, we talked about how his father Mel grew up, the 2 marriages he had prior to him marrying Paul's mom, and what it was like for Paul to spend his childhood growing up with an irrational dad until his parents divorced when he was just becoming a teenager.
In Part 2 we will talk about what it was like for Paul as an adult and experiencing his reconnection with his dad as Mel's health and mental state continued to decline. Paul shares some rather unique ideas his dad had up to the time that he passed. Paul also reflects on what he felt when his dad ultimately did pass on.
Mel’s mental status declines 9:40
His unique beliefs 14:34
Mel’s enemies 20:31
Getting closer to Paul 29:52
Connecting 36:34
Losing control in his life 49:08
Reaching the end of his life 53:25
Mel’s humorous side 67:09
Forgiving Mel 73:58
“When I came to understand him as a person that was doing the best that he could with the hand of cards that he’d been dealt, a lot changed. I still feel like that brings up a lot of emotion for me, but I think that any of us could take an outside view of any other person and judge them for their failures and try to hold their feet to the fire for all the mistakes they have made, which is not a very charitable interpretation, and I don’t think it helps our hearts to heal from whatever was hard.” 57:37
In Part 2 we will talk about what it was like for Paul as an adult and experiencing his reconnection with his dad as Mel's health and mental state continued to decline. Paul shares some rather unique ideas his dad had up to the time that he passed. Paul also reflects on what he felt when his dad ultimately did pass on.
Mel’s mental status declines 9:40
His unique beliefs 14:34
Mel’s enemies 20:31
Getting closer to Paul 29:52
Connecting 36:34
Losing control in his life 49:08
Reaching the end of his life 53:25
Mel’s humorous side 67:09
Forgiving Mel 73:58
“When I came to understand him as a person that was doing the best that he could with the hand of cards that he’d been dealt, a lot changed. I still feel like that brings up a lot of emotion for me, but I think that any of us could take an outside view of any other person and judge them for their failures and try to hold their feet to the fire for all the mistakes they have made, which is not a very charitable interpretation, and I don’t think it helps our hearts to heal from whatever was hard.” 57:37