Jan 21 2025 7 mins 2
In today’s video, I’m going to share my strangest retroactive jealousy advice.
Read or watch below to learn more about my strangest retroactive jealousy advice…
Zachary Stockill: One of the reasons I’ve been working on the topic of retroactive jealousy for over a decade is that the subject never ceases to surprise me.
The people I meet through my work also offer new and unexpected insights.
My work gives me the chance to learn so much about people, psychology, and human nature.
On that note, today, I want to discuss a common mistake people make with retroactive jealousy, which may surprise you.
My name is Zachary Stockill, and since 2013, I’ve been helping men and women from around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and save their relationships.
If you’d like to learn more about my work or work with me one-on-one, please visit this link.
If you’re new to the term, retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted, intrusive thoughts, often driven by obsessive curiosity.
I also refer to these as “mental movies” about a partner’s past relationships or their sexual and dating history.
In many cases, retroactive jealousy can develop into a true obsession.
For those dealing with it, their partner’s past can dominate their thoughts, turning into a real fixation.
And when I say obsession, I mean it. I can speak from personal experience on this issue.
Many years ago, in my early 20s, and even to some extent in my late teens, I struggled with retroactive jealousy in my own life.
For me, it truly became an obsession.
For several years, my partner’s past was the first thing I thought about when I woke up. It was also the last thing on my mind before I went to sleep.
Many nights, I had trouble sleeping because I was dealing with retroactive jealousy.
I also found myself asking my partner endless questions, trying to gather every detail about her past.
I would search for her exes on social media and spend hours googling, doing what I thought was research, and trying to find more information.
My partner’s past consumed me, and unfortunately, retroactive jealousy works the same way for many others who struggle with it.
Maybe “most” is an overstatement, but let’s just say that for many retroactive jealousy sufferers, their partner’s past becomes a real obsession.
What really surprised me when I started this work was how quickly it gained interest.
Just to give you some background, back in 2013, over a decade ago, I published my first book, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy.I launched my blog, retroactivejealousy.com, and started a YouTube channel shortly after. I was an early adopter of YouTube, and I’ve been working on this topic for a long time.
Over the years,
