Kink in the Chain Podcast

I met someone at a munch recently. I am a top and she is a bottom. We have great scenes and a great time together. My only issue is that she is slightly stronger than I am. Sometimes she gets in a brat mood and I just can’t control her. Usually when she “wins” I have to give up and just stop the scene. This leaves us both feeling very upset. Any advice to avoid this?

I am relatively new to kink in general but I keep seeing people with patches on their back denoting some title. A few weeks ago, I finally stopped and asked one of them about it. It was very informative. However my question is: are titles still something that people should run for? Are they respected? Is it something I should consider?

I recently moved here and am trying to find my place in the community. Where I came from (Texas) I was comfortable in the community. People knew who I was and what I could do. Now I come here and no one trusts me because they don’t know me. I didn’t expect my credibility to transfer like a college credit but any advice for transplants trying to establish a name for themselves?