405: Letting Go to Create Space for the New


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Episode Highlights:

  • Welcome back to the podcast after a short hiatus! This first episode of the new year is packed with insights, inspiration, and actionable tips to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

  • The focus of this episode: Letting go of what no longer serves you to create space for new possibilities in your life.

Key Takeaways:

  1. A Fresh Start for the New Year:

  • January often brings "New Year, New You" messages, but real transformation starts with releasing what holds you back.

  • Instead of adding more to your plate, reflect on what you can let go of—old beliefs, habits, or even physical clutter.

  1. Forgive Yourself:

  • If betrayal has left you blaming yourself ("How did I not see this?"), it’s time to give yourself grace.

  • Betrayal isn’t your fault; you didn’t know how to think like someone deceptive. Let go of the guilt and self-criticism.

  1. Reframing "Lost Time":

  • Feeling stuck in Stage 3 (out of the 5 Stages from betrayal to breakthrough)? Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t know before. Celebrate the fact that you now have a proven roadmap to healing.

  1. Letting Go of the Old:

  • Start small and tangible:

  • Clean out expired products, mismatched socks, or items you’ve outgrown.

  • Physical decluttering creates mental and emotional space for something new.

  • Let go of outdated beliefs like “I’ll never heal” or “I can’t trust again.” Replace them with believable "bridges" that move you toward new, empowering beliefs.

  1. Rebuilding Trust:

  • After betrayal, trust in yourself and others may feel shattered.

  • Begin by trusting small, safe things: a beloved pet, nature, or someone close to you.

  • Borrow belief from others if needed—trust in their vision of your healing until you can trust in yourself.

  1. Create New Habits:

  • Start with small, manageable steps:

  • Drink more water by keeping a glass nearby.

  • Walk a few times a week if exercise feels overwhelming.

  • Call or text a friend daily to strengthen relationships.

  • Small wins build confidence and momentum, inspiring you to take on more over time.

  1. Embracing Change:

  • Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s small, incremental changes or bold moves like starting fresh in a new environment, embracing discomfort leads to transformation.

  • Example: The host shares personal changes, like decluttering her closet, committing to staying in touch with friends, and implementing new business initiatives.

  1. The Power of Incremental Transformation:

  • Change doesn’t happen all at once. Slowly letting go of old patterns and integrating new habits leads to a complete transformation over time.

  • Celebrate every step forward—each small victory is proof of your resilience.

  1. You Are Capable of Healing:

  • You may feel weighed down by trauma, but the person you’re meant to become is already within you.

  • The host envisions you as the best version of yourself (Stage 4 or 5)—free from the pain, thriving, and fully healed. Use this vision as inspiration to keep moving forward.

Final Thoughts:

  • The journey from betrayal to breakthrough requires letting go of what no longer serves you—tangible items, outdated beliefs, or limiting habits—to create space for the new.

  • Start small, build momentum, and trust in your ability to transform.

  • Remember: Healing is possible, and you’re stronger than you know.

Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi

  • The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.

  • For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.

  • For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.