Apr 15 2025 35 mins
In this episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, hosts J. Fotsch and Diana Dudenhoeffer sit down with Chief Paul Williams to talk about how dads play a vital role in raising safe, responsible kids. With 45 years in law enforcement and personal parenting experience, Chief Williams highlights how an involved father figure profoundly shapes a child’s choices and future. He stresses that being a good dad means more than just enforcing rules—it’s about being present, playful and supportive.
They also tackle modern challenges like cyber safety, helicopter parenting and building independence. Chief Williams offers practical tools including using apps like Life360 and encouraging open dialogue. His “retractable leash” analogy captures the balance of freedom and protection. Above all, the episode delivers a hopeful message: it’s never too late to break the cycle and start a legacy of strong fatherhood.
Episode Highlights
[04:29] “The number one thing that makes a difference in a kid’s life is a dad… present, engaged, involved.”
[06:48] “Being a good dad is not just being the bad guy… Talk to any of my kids—they’ll say their best memories are of dad being the fun dad.”
[10:26] “We’re seeing that generational impact… I didn’t have a father figure, so I’m not a father figure.”
[17:22] “Your kids are your responsibility. They need to realize that. If you don’t give me access to everything, you’re not going to have it.”
[20:31] “Parents that take the helicopter approach… are doing their kids a disservice. Kids need to fail, screw up, get better.”
[27:13] “We’re exposed to more [news] now. Use that knowledge for good—but don’t go overboard and lock them up ‘til they’re 20.”
[32:51] “Think of life as a retractable leash… You give them space but when danger’s there, you can reel them back in.”
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