Mar 12 2025 13 mins
You’ve done it all—IVF, IUI, every possible fertility treatment. You’ve spent years hoping, praying, and planning for a baby that never arrived. Now, you find yourself in a place you never prepared for—life without the children you dreamed of. And you keep asking yourself, So now what?
If those words have been circling in your mind, you are not alone. I remember when they consumed me. When I was told my only frozen embryo wasn’t viable, I was convinced I had failed at everything. I believed I had let my husband down, that I had cheated my in-laws out of becoming grandparents, and that I would grow old alone, pitied by everyone. Most of all, I believed that my life would never feel full again because I didn’t become a mother.
But what if those beliefs aren’t actually true?
In this episode, I’m giving you a sneak peek into So Now What?, my upcoming book that I have poured my heart into. It’s not just words on a page—it’s a guide, a companion, and an invitation to create a life you love, even though it looks nothing like what you expected. Today, we’re talking about something that changed everything for me: your beliefs.
Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back?
The way you see yourself, your future, and your worth is shaped by what you believe. And most of the time, we don’t even realize how much our thoughts are controlling our reality.
- Do you believe that because you didn’t become a mom, you’ll never experience deep love?
- Do you believe your marriage is doomed without children?
- Do you believe that you’ll always be on the outside looking in while your friends celebrate milestones with their families?
If you’ve been carrying these beliefs, it’s not your fault. Society, family, religion, and the stories we’ve been told about what makes a woman’s life meaningful have shaped them. But here’s the truth: just because you’ve believed something for a long time doesn’t make it true.
I want you to start questioning the beliefs that have been keeping you stuck. Who told you these things had to be true? What if they aren’t?
Rewriting Your Story
When I first realized that my beliefs were shaping my happiness (or in my case, my deep sadness), I had to do the uncomfortable work of questioning them. I had to ask myself:
- If I wasn’t a failure, then what?
- If my life wasn’t actually over, what could it look like?
- If I didn’t let my husband down, what was still possible for us?
These questions were scary, but they were the key to setting myself free. They were the key to creating a life that, while different from what I imagined, is still full, meaningful, and beautiful.
In So Now What?, I walk you through exactly how I did this. How I stopped letting these outdated beliefs define me. How I learned to see myself in a new light. How I discovered that I was still whole, still worthy, and still capable of creating a future that felt deeply fulfilling.
And if this episode has you realizing that you’ve been carrying beliefs that no longer serve you, let’s talk.
Join Me for a Free Thrive Call
Maybe no one has ever offered you 45 minutes of their time, free of charge, to help you start creating a plan for your next chapter. But I do.
During our Thrive Call, we will:
✅ Look at the beliefs that have been keeping you stuck
✅ Create a plan for what comes next
✅ Start shifting your mindset so you can move forward in a way that feels real and authentic to you
You don’t have to keep feeling like your life is over. You don’t have to stay in this place of uncertainty and grief. There is another way forward, and I’d love to help you take that first step. Schedule your free Thrive Call here.
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I am beyond excited for this book to be in your hands, and I want to give 10 lucky listeners a signed copy for free! Enter the giveaway now: Enter to win here.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
📖 So Now What? (Available April 2) – Preorder coming soon!
📞 Book a Free Thrive Call: Click here
📥 Download The Top 27 Things People Say When You Are Childless (...and How to Respond): Get it here
You are not broken. Your life is not over. You get to create something beautiful for yourself, and I’d love to help you take that first step. 💛
See you next week. Remember, it’s never too late to discover your meaning.