Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

You don't get to this age without having struggled with feelings of being disrespected, whether it's in your workplace or your own relationship. Your partner might be scrolling on their phone rather than listening to you, or your boss might be leaving you out of email chains or work meetings. It's easy to then feel frustrated that they're acting so disrespectfully towards you and let resentment build.

So in my latest episode, I share personal stories and strategies to help you navigate these tricky moments. I teach you how to address disrespect in a way that is constructive and empowering for yourself and your relationships, rather than adding to the conflict. Because the last thing we want to do is address disrespect with disrespect, so join me for valuable insights to handle this issue with confidence.

[object Object]Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)
Kate introduces the episode and shares her excitement about recording and upcoming audiobook.

Friend's Experience of Disrespect (00:01:15)
Kate discusses a friend's feelings of disrespect at work, possibly due to age differences.

Navigating Feelings of Disrespect (00:02:07)
Kate emphasizes the nuanced nature of feeling disrespected and the importance of boundaries.

Cyclical Nature of Disrespect (00:03:31)
Kate warns against responding to disrespect with more disrespect, perpetuating a negative cycle.

Personal Experiences of Disrespect (00:04:30)
Kate shares her own experiences of feeling disrespected in professional settings as a woman.

Identifying Personal Disrespect (00:05:29)
Listeners are encouraged to reflect on moments of feeling disrespected in various relationships.

Three Steps to Handle Disrespect (00:06:25)
Kate outlines three insights for navigating feelings of disrespect without mirroring negative behavior.

Understanding Disrespectful Behavior (00:07:21)
Kate explains that disrespect is subjective and often rooted in personal interpretation.

Cultural Differences in Respect (00:08:22)
Kate shares a personal anecdote about cultural differences in perceptions of respect.

Separating Behavior from Interpretation (00:10:13)
The importance of distinguishing between actions and personal interpretations of those actions.

Navigating Painful Situations (00:11:15)
Kate reflects on her experiences dealing with disrespect in the context of a family tragedy.

Recognizing Personal Interpretation (00:12:13)
Listeners are encouraged to recognize their interpretations of others' behaviors as a source of distress.

Empathy and Understanding (00:15:07)
Kate emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in navigating feelings of disrespect.

Importance of Communication (00:16:07)
Kate stresses the necessity of having conversations about disrespectful behavior to promote self-respect.

Avoiding Mind Reading (00:18:05)
Kate highlights the toxic expectation that others should understand our feelings without communication.

Understanding Misinterpretations (00:18:58)
Discusses how misinterpretations of behavior can lead to feelings of disrespect and resentment in relationships.

Cultural Differences in Time Management (00:19:58)
Explores how cultural backgrounds influence perceptions of punctuality and respect in social interactions.

Separating Facts from Thoughts (00:20:54)
Emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between objective facts and personal interpretations to reduce blame.

Expressing Feelings Respectfully (00:21:46)
Encourages open communication about feelings rather than passive-aggressive behavior to avoid misunderstandings.

The Impact of Assumptions (00:22:45)
Highlights how assumptions about others' intentions can lead to conflict and defensiveness in conversations.

Agreeing on Common Ground (00:23:51)
Suggests establishing shared facts in discussions to foster cooperation and understanding between parties.

Owning Your Perspective (00:24:38)
Stresses the importance of expressing personal feelings while acknowledging they stem from individual interpretations.

Vulnerability in Conversations (00:25:33)
Promotes vulnerability as a means to invite understanding and connection in discussions about disrespect.

Different Backgrounds, Different Expectations (00:27:35)
Discusses how different upbringings shape individuals' interpretations of respect and behavior in relationships.

Maintaining Personal Values (00:29:20)
Encourages listeners to uphold their values and character when addressing disrespectful behavior in others.

Specificity in Communication (00:30:16)
Advocates for addressing specific behaviors rather than labeling individuals as disrespectful to foster constructive dialogue.

Curiosity and Open-Mindedness (00:30:55)
Encourages curiosity about others' perspectives to enhance understanding and reduce conflict.

Setting Boundaries (00:31:10)
Highlights the importance of setting personal boundaries to communicate needs and prevent feelings of disrespect.

Empathy in Responses (00:32:04)
Encourages responding with empathy and understanding rather than blame to improve interpersonal relationships.

The Challenge of Difficult People (00:34:20)
Acknowledges that difficult interactions are common and emphasizes the need for resilience and self-empowerment.

Practicing Healthy Communication (00:35:22)
Encourages listeners to practice healthy communication techniques to strengthen relationships and personal well-being.