Dec 15 2023 14 mins 3
We look at willpower, discipline, structure, laws, rules and resolutions....and notice how often they have failed and don't appear to work.
Yet, someone asks "does this mean I should never try to stop my behavior, I should just DO it whenever the urge arises to do it?"
This is swinging in the complete opposite direction and using the thought "willpower doesn't work" to give the excuse to just fall into a behavior that isn't ultimately what I want.
What we truly want, is for the behavior that seems to be "required" to become unnecessary and irrelevant. What we truly want is to no longer be interested in the behavior.
The only way I have found to do this is to see what I'm thinking, believing and feeling it does for me--and to investigate this.
In this video I share an exercise where you can begin.
The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life.
Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life.
She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year.
Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating.
Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts.
As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving.
In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time.
In all-group sessions and solo sessions, we begin with a judgment...and move into the four questions and turnarounds.
Willingness to be real and honest with your thinking is the first powerful step in The Work.
No one ever has to share when attending Friday Inquiry, and thank you when you do.
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