In this episode, we talk about the value of the full disclosure and some of the reasons that doing a full disclosure (for both him and for her) is incredibly beneficial. Here are some of those reasons:
- for men: integration of the story and the acting out - as in, making sense of and connecting dots in his story as a whole which informs the recovery and healing process
- for men: writing out our stories has been shown via research to help with the healing process at a cellular level
- for women: knowing the truth of our lives helps facilitate the process of forgiving (not to mention it restores honor to know the truth)
- for women: knowing the truth of his life can eventually help us tap into empathy for him, which in turn helps aid in forgiveness
- for men: to help uncover the “why” of the acting out (the roots)
- for men: an opportunity for rebuilding trust
- for women: helps her get unstuck and sets her on a course to truly grieve what has happened
- for both: a marker / foundation for them to build upon
- for women: the ability to integrate the truth of her life into her story (just like he does)
- for women: witnessing him cultivating ownership (such an important character trait we need to see in him)
- for men: it’s Biblical
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- Pennebaker is the researcher out of UT Austin that has shown the impact of writing out our stories to significantly help our bodies heal.
- James 5:16 - confess you sins so that you may be healed.
- John 8:32 - the truth will set you free.
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