Jan 29 2025 63 mins 3
“CALM DOWN!”
“I’ve already asked you THREE times to put your shoes on!”
“How dare you talk to me like that!”
Do you ever find yourself standing at the bottom of the stairs, hollering at your child? Or perhaps you’re dealing with a child who is sobbing hysterically while you're racing against the clock for work. We all carry 'core scripts' learned during our childhood, which influence our daily interactions with our children. It often feels natural to use familiar phrases and tones from our own upbringing. But do these phrases really work?
Being a parent or educator is hard. But being a SEN parent or educator is relentless.
A few years ago, this was the experience of Ali Fanshawe. Ali couldn’t understand why she was struggling to deal with her children’s ‘fizzy moments’ in a more compassionate way. In today’s episode Ali joins Dale to discuss ‘The power of language with our SEND kids’.
Ali tells us that it is critical to accept that our SEN kids need a different form of communication and interaction in order to support them. Adopting a new parenting language can radically transform family dynamics and help calm the chaos at home or in a classroom. It’s about re-learning the way we talk to and interact with our kids so that we’re being the parents and teachers they need us to be, not the ones we were taught to be.
Listen to discover tools and strategies to use that can ease the pressure at home and school.
About Ali Fanshawe
Ali founded FizzyKids in 2018, having left the corporate world to become a full time Parent Carer to her two adopted kids with special needs. Frustrated by the lack of practical resources on parenting her children, she set out to re-learn her parenting approaches and in doing so created a new parenting language which she is now sharing with other parents in the hope that it helps transform family and classroom dynamics.
Contact Ali
https://www.facebook.com/@thefizzykids
https://www.instagram.com/thefizzykids/
Useful Links
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Telling-Your-Kids-CALM/dp/1036900746
Ali has recently released a new book 'How to stop telling your kids to calm down (and why it doesn't work anyway)'. Ali Fanshawe has been on a journey to better understand and parent her two adopted kids with additional needs. Her work has led to a realisation that you have ‘core scripts’ learnt during your childhood, that are embedded in the day-to-day language you use when you parent your kids.
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