Mar 09 2025 22 mins
In this episode of Connected Leadership Bytes host Andy Lopata talks to Frank Agin, a connector and founder of AM Business Connections, about building meaningful relationships and networking with impact.
They explore the dual meaning of "connection"—both as human bonding and strategic engagement. Frank emphasises shifting from a transactional mindset ("What can I get?") to a relational one ("What can I give?"), stressing that trust and empathy are foundational. He shares the three reasons people fail to secure referrals: lack of relationship depth, inability to recognise opportunities, and hesitation to engage in meaningful dialogue.
Andy and Frank highlight storytelling as a tool to foster connection, using relatable anecdotes to
bridge gaps and build rapport. Frank concludes with a powerful metaphor from anthropologist Margaret Mead: a healed femur symbolises humanity’s innate instinct to care for one another, reinforcing that survival and success depend on mutual support.
Key Takeaways:
1. Relationships First: Build genuine connections by focusing on giving, not extracting value.
2. Storytelling Matters: Use stories to engage, humanise interactions, and make ideas memorable.
3. Referral Barriers: Lack of trust, opportunity recognition, and conversational confidence hinder referrals.
4. Social Media Nuance: Platforms educate and nurture networks but aren’t substitutes for real relationships.
5. Cognitive Diversity: Balance professional and personal networks for broader perspectives and support.
6. Human Instinct to Care: Empathy and collaboration are key to thriving.
SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube
Connect with Frank Agin: LinkedIn | Website
The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring
Episode Featuring Frank Agin