Self Care Is Sexy

How we distract ourselves

You are always offering to help someone with their problems

You offer resources you don’t have

You over commit

You anticipate others needs even before they ask for them

You rarely say “no”.

It is hard for you to tell where you end and your partner begins

You feel proud when you help others and crave that feeling.

You rarely have any time to yourself. Or alone time. - because you find it uncomfortable

Your children have the best of everything, while you shop at thrift stores

You feel like people expect a lot from you!

Why we distract ourselves

We have poor self image

We are afraid to be judged

There is nothing more uncomfortable than being alone

We feel unworthy

We don’t know how to take care of ourselves

We don’t want to appear selfish or stuck up

We are anxious to please

We fear any confrontation

We have boundary issues

We have deep compassion

Ways we can change

Spend time alone. No distractions.

Do the hard personal work

Recognize the impulse to help others.

Set up a self-care date once a week

Make a list of fifty things you like about yourself

Do what you say you are going to.

Do esteemable things

Take an unscheduled sick day and devote that day to yourself

Get organized, declutter make a plan

Ask for help