Sep 27 2024 7 mins
- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre
He “caused” our problems and yet once again the focus and everyone’s attention is on him. The family income is being used by him again for his benefit, on top of the spend he has already enjoyed on his addiction. It’s just not fair. I am left here with his stuff and don’t know where to go or turn for help for me. That just is not right and is not fair. I feel so.....
This is an understandable reframe don’t you think? But there is help for partners of sex addicts.
What could the programme look like for a Partner?
• Teaching and discussion on the following:
• Definition of sex addiction and Love addiction
• Common understandable error patterns which partners fall into and battles you will lose
• The role of the addiction
• Preparing an Impact Statement
• Partners absolute “No No’s”
• What can we learn about “Adult/Parent/Child” ego state interactions
• Family of Origin, contributors and what set up the addiction
• You are not alone
• Effect on the stars - Hollywood, Professionals, the good and the great, across the board - all are susceptible
• Evolution of the sexual template and map
• Cycle of addiction
• Boundaries
• Full disclosure of “secrets”
• Polygraph or not to Polygraph
• How much should I ask about his past behaviours?
• Trust, money, healthy sexuality
• Self responsibility & self care
• Own support groups/ Friendship (including the not so wise choices)
• Attachment, Shame, Narcissism, Co-dependency
• Grief cycle
• Questions women ask; hope, fears and reservations
• Disclosure: family and the children
• Legality issues
• Restoring the relationship or leaving the relationship
• What can you take home from the Stage play “Accidentally Brave” : "In this unflinchingly honest one-woman play, Maddie tells an inspiring true story about discovering a new normal when everything she thought she knew came undone….. is an inspiring true story about discovering a new normal when the familiar world falls apart, a must-see examination of what it means to navigate a world with no certainty.
• Recommended reading
Let The Kairos Centre accompany you - as a Partner that is impacted.
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Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/
Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.
Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building |