Oct 01 2024 50 mins
I am so pleased that Ana Escobar joined me to speak about relationships with people who have bulimia. Both sides. Our process of being with someone while being bulimic, and our partner's reaction.
I loved that Ana speaks about how it is difficult for someone you are with to understand bulimia and the relationship with food if they don't have that issue.
There has to be an understanding on the bulimic's side that some people in a relationship do not want to deal with it. They will accept you without wanting to be a part of it.
Ana speaks about coming out of a divorce. About letting go and that there are better things that will come out of it.
Ana works not only with bulimics and people with eating disorders, and she also works with people about relationships, so this was a key topic for her to share with us.
She said there are two things. You work together in a partnership with the eating disorder, or you understand that you have to deal with it on your own. Someone willing to want to work with you, it's because they have the time. However, a person who doesn't have a fear of food may not be able to participate in the healing process. At that point in your life, you have to decide. Ir is not that they don't love you. But do you want to stay with someone who doesn't want to participate or someone who is sympathetic and caring enough to take the time to be there for you?
It is a very difficult position for someone to find out that their partner has bulimia. It is a very difficult position for someone with bulimia or with an eating disorder to feel that there are no emotions from their partner about it.
Please share if you feel that your partner should be supportive or allow them to be non-emotional about it and let you deal with it on your own. Thoughts? You can share them by sending an email to [email protected].
If you want to be a guest and speak to this, please also let me know.
I thank Ana so much for her time and her message of not blaming someone for not supporting you. It's a choice for your partner. It's a choice for you.
Ana was candid too about relationships... live for the day. You never know how long you will be with someone. Marriage reflects being with someone for life, but it is not always so. Without expectations, life is a better way to live. It removes the suffering, and pain from you. Goals are important, but expectations are a different thing. There is a difference.
Ana has great messages. You can find her by going to @themagicinhealing on Instagram. She provides a first consultation for free.
Thank you, Ana. What you are doing is wonderful. Thanks for sharing your story and helping people.
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