Mar 08 2025 53 mins
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Wondering why your relationships—and real estate decisions—follow predictable patterns? This eye-opening conversation between Rowena Patton and attachment expert Chris Evensen reveals how your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized) fundamentally shapes your biggest life choices.
The statistics are shocking: secure attachment has plummeted from 75% in the 1950s to just 40% today. This decline creates ripple effects not only in our personal relationships but directly impacts our approach to buying and selling property. Evensen breaks down each attachment style with remarkable clarity, explaining how anxious types (who trust everyone but themselves) and avoidants (who trust only themselves) navigate differently through both emotional and financial commitments.
For real estate decisions specifically, these patterns manifest in profound ways. Anxious types might rush into purchases seeking validation, while avoidants might suddenly abandon transactions when commitment feels too threatening. As Evensen bluntly states, "You cannot rely on a dismissive avoidant for anything"—a critical insight when making major financial decisions together.
Beyond theory, this episode offers practical strategies for recognizing and improving your attachment style. The good news? With awareness and targeted action, you can shift your patterns in as little as 3-6 months - IF you are prepared to put in the work. Whether you're navigating a relationship, considering a real estate purchase, or wondering why previous partnerships dissolved, understanding these fundamental psychological patterns provides powerful tools for better outcomes.
Ready to transform your approach to both relationships and real estate? Listen now and discover which attachment style drives your decisions—and how to create healthier patterns for lasting success in love and property.