Just like with recycling, family law has rules that govern how a case is run, and there are lots of practice notes and guides available to assist you in running a case.
Wishlitigators want the process to fit their belief systems about how family law should be run, instead of fitting themselves into the rules and processes of the family law system.
I’ve set up a go fund me campaign to fight the bankruptcy proceedings my ex has launched against me: https://gofund.me/24af5893