Jan 25 2023 15 mins
Every one of us has been injured by life. How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective is the first of a three-part series to give you some tools to help you become more resilient as you work through life’s challenges with the Lord’s help.
Four Reasons Men Don’t Deal with Wounds
There are several reasons but in this article, I will focus on four common reasons that men struggle with their wounds.
First, culture has trained us to believe that real men don’t cry.
Second, masculinity is under pressure. Current cultural nuances and the innuendos of “toxic masculinity” in the media have scared our daughters and caused many young men to fail to embrace their masculinity.
Third, sadly, some men feel that church life is irrelevant to their needs.
Fourth, because many men don’t have a support system, many will bury their woundedness. The result is various addictive behaviors, drugs, gaming, sexual addictions, food, pleasure, drinking, and even hyper-religious involvement. For many men, if this woundedness is not addressed, it will significantly negatively impact their lives and relationships.
Food for Thought
C.S. Lewis once wrote, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains…[Pain] is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world”- C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain.
The Lord is more concerned with our character than our comfort; at times, He chooses to use calamity to refine us.