Mar 10 2024 93 mins
In this episode, Joel Lee and I explore conflict resolution by delving into the depth of emotional identification and management. We emphasize moving beyond basic emotions like anger or frustration and using scales to measure and reduce emotional intensity effectively.
We discuss the vital role of confidence in conflict resolution, tied closely to mindset and aligning beliefs with actions. We address how our inner critical voice can impact self-belief and how Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques can reshape this narrative, fostering confidence and a positive mindset.
Highlighting the interconnectedness of thoughts, emotions, and body posture, we stress the need for balance in these areas for emotional well-being and successful conflict resolution. We talk about self-mastery, drawing parallels between conflict resolution, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), and martial arts, stressing the importance of understanding one's emotions for personal growth.
Before wrapping up, we share two meaningful insights. Firstly, we discuss William Ury's book, "Getting to Yes with Yourself," emphasizing self-mastery as essential for effective conflict resolution. Secondly, we recount the metaphorical tale of "the story of the two wolves," highlighting the power of choosing to nurture positive emotions for personal well-being and positive conflict resolution.
Joel Lee's contact info:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joel-lee-0a03b9b/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joel.lee.5070
Book: https://store.lawnet.com/an-asian-perspective-on-mediation.html
Joel Lee's Bio
Joel Lee is a Professor at the Faculty of Law, the National University of Singapore. A graduate of Victoria University of Wellington and Harvard Law Schools, Joel specializes in Negotiation and Mediation. Joel co-pioneered the teaching of Negotiation and Mediation in the Singapore Universities and has played a significant role in furthering the development of mediation in Singapore.
Joel has taught overseas at the University of Copenhagen (Denmark), University of Law, Economics and Science of Aix‐Marseille (Aix‐en‐Provence France), and Anglia Law School (UK), and in 2011,was awarded the National University of Singapore's highest teaching award, the Outstanding Educator Award. Joel was also awarded the Singapore’s Public Service Medal in 2023 for his work in promoting mediation.
Joel is a Principal Mediator with the Singapore Mediation Centre, and a Certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Joel has also been a practitioner of a Chinese martial art, Wing Tsun, for over 3 decades and runs his own Wing Tsun school in Singapore.
Tags
emotions, conflict resolution, identification, scales, intensity, confidence, mindset, congruence, NLP techniques, perspective, thoughts, body posture, self-mastery, outcomes, "Getting to Yes with Yourself", William Ury, positive emotions, gratitude, expertise, podcast
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