Mar 11 2025 11 mins 6
One of the most powerful shifts we can make when addressing student behaviour is to stop lecturing and start leading. Instead of telling students what they did wrong, we need to ask the right questions to guide them toward reflection, accountability, and change.
Lecturing rarely leads to buy-in. It is one of William Glasser’s seven disconnecting habits, and without realising it, we often fall into this trap—especially in the heat of the moment. The result? Students tune out, nod along without truly listening, or push back entirely.
In this episode, I explore how shifting from lecture mode to guide mode creates a more productive and effective approach to behaviour chats. I provide real-world examples of common classroom scenarios and show you exactly how to replace lecturing with guiding questions that encourage self-reflection and responsibility.
Listen in as I discuss:
- Why lecturing does not create real behaviour change. The importance of student buy-in.
- How to shift from telling to questioning. Using questions to encourage reflection and accountability.
- Practical examples of guiding language. What to say instead of lecturing in common behaviour situations.
Mentioned resources:
MASTERCLASS: REAL CONSEQUENCES, REAL CHANGE
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- My book! It’s Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management
- The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp
- Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change'
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