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Welcome back to the ROCK Your Girl Power Podcast, where we tackle real-life topics, relationships, and empowerment with authenticity and heart. Today, we’re diving into a topic that I know many of you will relate to: The Unattainable Man.

Types of Unattainable Men

Let’s start by breaking it down. Not all unattainable men are the same. Some are unavailable for very clear reasons, and others? Well, their inaccessibility can feel like a puzzle we’re determined to solve. Let me introduce you to a few archetypes:

1. The Alpha Male
2. The Man on the Bicycle (Poverty Mentality)
3. The Emotionally Unavailable Man
4. The Wanderer
5. The Past Lover
   

Recognizing Daddy Issues and Their Role

Let’s talk about something that might hit a little close to home: Daddy Issues. For many women, the longing for an unattainable man can be tied to unresolved emotions surrounding their relationship with their father or father figure.

When a father is absent, emotionally unavailable, overly critical, or inconsistent, it can create a deep-seated longing for validation, security, and love from men. This can manifest in adulthood as a tendency to chase men who reflect those same qualities—men who are hard to pin down, emotionally distant, or unwilling to commit.

The unattainable man, in many ways, mirrors the emotional void left by a distant or absent father. Subconsciously, we might think, If I can win his love, it will prove that I’m worthy. But this chase is often futile, leaving us in a cycle of seeking validation in places where it simply can’t be found.

What Do We Really Long For?

Recognizing this longing is powerful. It allows us to pause, reflect, and ask ourselves: Am I chasing this person because they truly align with my values and needs? Or am I trying to fill a void they can never fill?

The Soul Tie and How to Break It

To break a soul tie, consider these steps:

1. Acknowledge the Bond
2. Cut Emotional and Physical Contact.
3. Reflect on the Lessons
4. Seek Inner Healing
5. Replace the Void with Purpose
   
   

How to Break the Cycle

If you find yourself constantly drawn to unattainable men, it’s time to pause and reflect. Here are a few steps to help break the cycle:

1. Identify the Pattern
2. Focus on Self-Worth
3. Set Clear Boundaries
4. Seek Healthy Connections

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