Apr 15 2025 15 mins 5
In this episode, we explore how recommitting to daily conversations and weekly date nights can reignite emotional intimacy and transform your relationship with your partner.
• Gottman research shows mapping your partner's inner world is crucial for emotional connection
• People constantly change and evolve—nobody remains the same person they were when you married
• Commit to 20 minutes of daily connection through walking and meaningful conversation
• Move beyond transactional topics (kids, chores, schedules) to discover what excites or stresses your partner
• Ask questions like "What are you learning right now?" or "Who are you enjoying talking to lately?"
• Use weekly date nights to explore the origins of beliefs about sex, money, relationships
• Investigate childhood experiences to understand where your partner's core beliefs originated
• "Weed out" unhealthy beliefs and intentionally plant new ideas in your relationship garden
• Emotional connection naturally enhances all other forms of intimacy
• Utilize resources like card decks, apps, and games for inspiration if you're struggling with conversation starters
I invite you to go for a walk with your spouse every single day, start mapping their inner world with really good questions, and make sure you're getting date night on the calendar every week. I promise it will make a huge difference in the connection, closeness and emotional intimacy you feel with your partner.
