Mar 30 2025 30 mins
🗣️ From crisis to radical reinvention: Wayne Scott, acclaimed Portland psychotherapist and author of "The Maps They Gave Us," shares the extraordinary journey of how his 35-year mixed-orientation marriage survived through open non-monogamy.
Wayne's powerful story has been featured in the New York Times' Modern Love column, adapted for podcast and tv, and established him as a leading voice in relationship counseling for non-traditional couples. His raw honesty about confronting jealousy, inadequacy, and societal expectations offers insights for anyone navigating the complexities of long-term relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
🗣️ "Success in marriage isn't predicated on longevity" - Why relationships evolve
🗣️ How confronting personal insecurities can transform partnerships
🗣️ Why conventional relationship models don't work for everyone
🗣️ The importance of intentional communication during relationship crises
🗣️ How to reimagine marriage as "an act of imagination"
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction & Early Relationship
03:42 The Crisis Point in Their Marriage
08:03 Their Therapist's Radical Suggestion
11:02 Navigating Jealousy and Inadequacy
15:55 How Their Children Adapted
19:44 Supporting Other Non-Monogamous Couples
23:50 Defining Successful Marriage
25:23 The Meaning Behind "The Maps They Gave Us"
Whether you're in a traditional marriage, exploring alternative relationship structures, or simply interested in human connection, Wayne's story offers profound wisdom on creating partnerships that honor both commitment and personal growth.
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📲 Connect with Wayne Scott
Website: https://waynescottlcsw.com/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Maps-They-Gave-Us-Reimagined/dp/1625571542
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