Feb 20 2025 48 mins
Divorce is never just about legal proceedings—it’s an emotional battlefield. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Robert Goldman, a seasoned attorney-turned-psychologist specializing in forensic evaluations, child custody cases, and court-ordered therapy. We dive into the complexities of the legal system, parental accountability, and how to manage expectations when seeking justice in court.
We also discuss the emotional toll of high-conflict divorces, the role of parental influence on children, and the healing journey post-divorce. Dr. Goldman offers his expert insights on narcissistic abuse, the power of resiliency, and why some people struggle to move forward while others thrive.
Episode Highlights:
[00:02] - Introducing Dr. Robert Goldman and his unique background in law and psychology.
[02:21] - Holding an ex-spouse accountable—what happens when court orders aren’t followed?
[03:25] - Managing expectations in the legal system and why “justice” isn’t always what people think.
[04:59] - How should a targeted parent respond when children are manipulated against them?
[06:14] - The danger of labels like "manipulation" and "narcissistic abuse"—why critical thinking is key.
[10:21] - The emotional toll of family court and why many feel re-traumatized.
[15:24] - Why even "amicable" divorces can feel like moral violations and trigger intense emotions.
[22:47] - Can trauma from a divorce physically change your brain? Dr. Goldman explains the science behind it.
[32:30] - How do you prove harassment in court? The importance of unbiased evidence.
[37:00] - The shifting role of fathers in custody battles—what changed since the 70s?
[41:57] - The power of healing: why some choose growth and others stay stuck.
[44:55] - Finding meaning in suffering—how trauma can lead to personal transformation.
Links & Resources:
📞 Contact Dr. Robert Goldman: 631-499-7500
📖 Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl – A must-read on resilience and finding purpose in suffering
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