Feb 18 2024 29 mins 1
Today’s topic is one we have visited before. But today, we would like to address the topic from a different angle.
As parents we would never want to intentionally hurt our kids. We desire the best for them and all of the best opportunities to do well in life.
But, over the years we have lost sight of what “the best” really means for our kids. In many cases we have recognized what we have earned or achieved as adults and want to hand that right over to our kids. This might sound like a nice thing to do as a parent, but it has hurt our kids with the unintended consequences that the world has no problem providing.
Life has always been hard, but in these supposed times of life being better and more accommodating to our needs than ever before, we see people hurting; Depression, Anxiety, Suicide, Divorce, Purposelessness, Drug and alcohol use, and the list goes on.
Why in such great times are we having such difficult times?
In a nutshell, people’s expectations are not being met. In other words, they are not getting what they want.
Even as adults, we have become spoiled brats!
Philippians 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, each of you considering the needs of others."
7 Ways to not Handicap our Kids
Name Your Target, Plan a strategy to hit your target- What do you want for your kids as adults. (yes, you have heard that said before!!!!!!!)
Don’t Handicap Your Children. Let your mindset be; “don’t do things for them they are capable of doing themselves”. (I’m not talking about the occasion to be kind and doing them a favor.)
No Blood, No Foul - Don’t rescue them from every bump and bruise. Failures, falls, and misfortunes are all part of the learning process. In fact, they are more important than the successes. The sting of the failure will impact their life decisions far more than the joy of the win.
I Did Not Come to be Served, but to Serve. Service to others is the center of everything we do. The opposite, service to self, is termed Narcissism. Never lose an opportunity to have your child serve someone else. This starts at the age of about 3.
What’s Praised is Repeated. Watch what you praise. If you want more of a certain behavior, be liberal with your praise for that behavior. If you want less, let them no what it is that you do want so they know what you are looking for, then praise it when they reach it.
“NO” is not a Curse Word. Real life has no problem telling us “No”. Avoiding the negative has become a failed social experiment. Discipline is the art of knowing how to implement the “NO” in our lives. The faster our children learn to recognize that “no” does not mean anything against their character, the faster they will not take criticisms and setbacks personally.
Teach them who the Real Boss is. Teach them that all authority comes from God himself. The way we parent was not our design, but God’s. We are simply servants of God when we raise our children to His way and His word! Good leaders must be Great followers of Christ.
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