Mar 07 2024 44 mins 1
In this episode, host Ellis interviews guest Avery Carter, a sex worker based in Philadelphia. Avery shares her background and experience in the industry, including her transition to becoming a dominatrix. They discuss the importance of consent and communication in BDSM relationships, as well as the misconceptions people commonly have about BDSM and kink. Avery emphasizes the need for explicit communication, negotiation of boundaries, and the practice of aftercare to ensure a safe and consensual experience. They provide advice for those curious about exploring BDSM and kink, highlighting the significance of safety and finding like-minded individuals. Additionally, they discuss the lack of submissive providers and the challenges associated with offering submissive experiences in the sex work industry.
Takeaways
BDSM and kink are not limited to any specific race or ethnicity; they are experiences for everyone.
Engaging in BDSM and kink can contribute to personal growth and self-awareness by releasing shame, improving communication skills, and fostering presence in one's body.
Common roles in BDSM relationships include dom/sub, top/bottom, pet/pet owner, and master/slave.
Finding a supportive community and resources for BDSM and kink can be done through platforms like FetLife and social media, as well as attending local parties and events.
Approaching BDSM and kink safely involves communication, taking it slow, exploring personal desires, and considering professional providers for guidance and exploration.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:16 Working in Different Cities
03:01 Career Commitment
04:08 Ideal Client and Types of Clients
07:00 Working with Young People and Queer Folks
09:09 Rebranding and Transitioning to Dom Work
10:58 Fundamentals of BDSM
13:50 Consent and Communication in BDSM
15:03 Navigating Consent and Communication
18:05 Challenging Preconceptions and Expanding Understanding
21:14 Misconceptions about BDSM and Kink
22:36 Misconceptions about BDSM and Kink
23:52 BDSM and Kink as a Path to Personal Growth and Self-Awareness
24:59 Common Roles and Dynamics in BDSM Relationships
28:31 Discovering Dominance and Submission
31:22 Exploring Personal Desires and Boundaries
33:41 Balancing Power Dynamics with Mutual Respect and Equality
35:13 Finding Supportive Communities and Resources for BDSM and Kink
36:42 Approaching BDSM and Kink Safely
39:24 The Lack of Submissive Providers in BDSM and Kink
Today's Guest | Avery Carter
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