The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them. Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than okay, no matter what socie

In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNcivilized Relationship Paradigm. This episode is going to upset a lot of folks because, well, I’m in support of both movements despite the massive implications they will have societally. And I see them both as canaries in the relatio

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time. For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s in our own shadowy closets

I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick. Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys. In this s

An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you. In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculin

Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be. In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men, about getting in touch with ou

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?” I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn Getting to be authentically me in men’s groups Having Michael Ga

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up.

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering. This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life.

I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common. Failure to launch. We all hit "fai