Jan 09 2025 45 mins 1
Dr. Ian Kerner, bestselling author of “She Comes First” and licensed sex therapist, shares insights from his 20+ years helping couples create more fulfilling sexual connections. From his own journey of overcoming sexual challenges to becoming a leading voice in sex therapy, Dr. Kerner discusses how traditional scripts around sex often limit pleasure and intimacy. He emphasizes moving beyond the “intercourse discourse” to embrace a more holistic view of sexual experiences that prioritizes mutual pleasure and absorption.
Through his clinical work and research, Dr. Kerner has observed concerning trends among younger generations choosing partnerships without sexual chemistry, while also noting positive shifts in couples’ openness to sexual exploration and toy incorporation. He provides practical frameworks for couples to examine and improve their “sexual scripts” - the patterns and behaviors that make up their intimate encounters.
The conversation explores how couples can cultivate psychological arousal, maintain erotic connections between encounters, and create space for authentic sexual expression without judgment. Dr. Kerner shares valuable insights about the importance of both emotional safety and maintaining elements of mystery and desire in long-term relationships.
Topics Covered:
- Rethinking traditional sexual scripts
- Creating psychological arousal and intimacy
- The role of foreplay vs coreplay
- Sexual chemistry in choosing life partners
- Maintaining desire in long-term relationships
Guest Info:
- Website: IanKerner.com
- Books: “She Comes First”, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex”
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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting
