Stop Punishing Yourself

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Welcome to stop punishing yourself. The only podcast that teaches neurodivergent Alaskans (who are prone to anxiety and depression) how to stop feeling like victims to their brains and start feeling empowered by them. I am your host and neurospicy life coach Ellicia Turner and I promise to take you from codependent and insecure to independent and unstoppable using the spiritual art and science of coaching. If you’re ready to completely reverse the harmful wiring in your brain, free yourself emotionally and take back control from your past social conditioning, then let’s get started.

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SPY 38: Self Love as The Cure All

Aug 09 2023 16 mins

Self love is confronting. It holds up a mirror to the prison we tend to put ourselves in. Self love is not to be confused with arrogance or vanity. It is neither of those things. It's safety, respect, and space for our full humanity. It's accountable and aware. It's disciplined but gentle and slow. It's a paradox--an alien in our social norms of self abdication.

SPY 37: How to Meditate Your Ass Off

Aug 02 2023 32 mins

You guys. It feels like summer started yesterday for me. My husband and I had a picnic by the lake. I got to read in the sun, visit a brewery rooftop, play in the sprinkler with my pup. We had a fire in the backyard in the evening. I was fascinated by all the bugs and blossoms and sunburns. It feels like my very first summer after an 800 year winter. (I know it’s not the first su

SPY 36: Being an Emotional Adult

Jul 26 2023 16 mins

Emotional Childhood is just a fancy term for chronic blame. Emotional Adulthood is a just a fancy term for habituated responsibility. In emotional childhood we blame all of our problems, emotions, life circumstances, and limits on the external world (including other humans). In emotional adulthood we take full responsibility for everything in our life—yes—even the things that o

SPY 35: Respect Doesn't Require Fear

Jul 19 2023 34 mins

Ever notice how respect is oftentimes confused with fear? We weren’t really taught to respect adults growing up… We were taught to fear them.To obey blindly, to conform swiftly, to fall in line or be punished! Subtly but surely over time, kids learn that giving and receiving respect looks and feels a lot like being afraid. This creates adults who are partly afraid of their inti

SPY 34: Deserving vs. Committing

Jul 12 2023 13 mins

Here’s a wild concept I want you to consider. The universe, God, whatever life force you believe to be in charge of things.. is not out here dividing and distributing some portions to the deserving folk, while withholding other portions from the undeserving folk. Portions could mean anything. Portions of money, portions of joy, portions of success, appreciation, love—you name i

SPY 33: You Might Be Neurodivergent

Jul 05 2023 24 mins

I could have been the poster child for neurodivergence if it was researched as equally in girls as it was in boys back in the 90s. Alas, it was missed, I was masked, and I wouldn’t fully discover the nooks and crannies of my brain’s MO until 30 years old. The statistics on neurodivergence diagnosis TODAY (1 in 36 people) versus 10, 20 years ago (1 in 150 people) is staggering.

SPY 32: The Most Powerful Exercise

Jun 14 2023 21 mins

The most powerful exercise? No not physical exercise! You’ll have to ask someone else for that information. I mean, the most powerful LIFE COACHING exercise. If you haven’t already guessed, it’s an EMOTIONAL exercise.On today’s newest episode, that’s what I’m delivering. So grab a pen and paper (or let’s be real, your notes app) and get ready to jot down the 2 questio

SPY 31: The Compare & Despair Cycle

Jun 07 2023 12 mins

On today’s podcast episode I am inviting ALL of my listeners to join me on zoom tonight for the Compare & Despair Cycle Workshop! There will be massive revelations happening about this ol’ pattern we humans like to call compare and despair. Some homework WILL be assigned at the end of the call. If you come live, you will have the opportunity to get coached ON THE CALL. FOR

SPY 30: You Are Not Wrong: How to Unlearn Wrongness

May 31 2023 14 mins

You are not wrong. Your existence is not wrong. Nothing has gone wrong. You are not wrong. Your existence has never been wrong. Nothing about you is wrong.You are not wrong. Nothing has gone wrong here. You are exactly where you are meant to be. You are not wrong. You are worthy in your own right. You deserve to take up the space you do. You are not wrong. You belong exactly where

SPY 29: The Spider Analogy and Our Fear of Feelings

May 24 2023 25 mins

I'm going to make an audacious claim here. You are more afraid of your feelings than you even realize. I'm not saying that to try to judge or shame you. I'm saying that to bring awareness to something that is impacting your life in a monumental (& probably catastrophic) way. Our feelings are NOT some collection of soft, unimportant, remedial inconveniences. They