Behind Our Smiles Marriage Podcast

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Welcome to the Behind Our Smiles Podcast! We’re your hosts, Joe & Tara Buchanan. We were married in 1997, we have four amazing children, and we want to share with you the real-life behind our smiles... The things we still struggle with, the things we finally have victory over, and the truth from God’s Word that we know will always carry us. Join us for some candid conversations as we look for ways to pursue a connection with God and each other and find joy even in the struggle.

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Episode 140: This is a Symptom, It Isn't You (Interview w/ Dr. Melissa Mork)

May 28 2024 28 mins

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we wanted to talk to the mental health expert and our fellow podcaster, Dr. Melissa Mork. Dr. Mork is a clinical psychotherapist, speaker, author, and professor who speaks clearly to issues of mental health. In this interview, we tackled the hard questions that arise when one spouse is struggling with mental health issues. Mental Health

Episode 139: Don't Tell Me How to Drive!

May 21 2024 33 mins

Does your spouse’s driving drive you crazy? Can you get through a road trip without feeling very frustrated? Many of our worst traits show up when we’re on the road and in stressful driving conditions. In this week’s episode, we share how we avoid driving each other crazy while driving! To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagram behindoursmiles.com wowgod.com

Episode 138: Make It Right with Christ First (Interview with Shawn & Jayneen Scheffler)

May 14 2024 53 mins

This week we are talking to our new friends Shawn and Jayneen, and theirs is a unique and powerful story. How does a marriage survive when one spouse is self-destructing? After their marriage was almost completely destroyed by infidelity and a five-year separation, God redeemed not just their marriage, but healed them as individuals. Hear all the skills and wisdom they learned

Episode 137: How Do I Support You As A Mother? (ICYMI #85)

May 07 2024 18 mins

Ladies, do you want to receive a Mother’s Day gift from your husband? Even though we are not their mothers, we do need their encouragement! In this episode, we talk about one of the best gifts you can give the mother of you children: unwavering dedication to your family. We share 6 principles that Joe has practiced in supporting Tara as a mother. M- Model Respect O- Offer Re

Episode 136: Let's Cuddle

Apr 30 2024 22 mins

Do you like to cuddle with your spouse? Cuddling isn’t just for babies and puppies! Taking time each day to hold each other and enjoy that physical closeness is great for our physical and mental health! In this episode we share about why we love cuddling and how it has benefitted our marriage! To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagram behindoursmiles.com wowgod.

Episode 135: I'm Not Talking To You! (The Four Horsemen Part 4)

Apr 23 2024 33 mins

This is our final week in our series on the Gottmans’ Four Horsemen. Our final horseman is stonewalling, which is when one person withdraws and refuses to engage in a conversation. When is stonewalling harmful and when is it helpful? How do we handle conflict when we are flooded with uncomfortable emotions? In this episode we share our experience with stonewalling and how we ke

Episode 134: You're So Stupid! (The Four Horsemen Part 3)

Apr 16 2024 33 mins

We are in third week of our series on the Gottman’s Four Horsemen. One of the most dangerous of all the horsemen is contempt, which John Gottman calls the “sulfuric acid for love”. Contempt begins when simmering negative thoughts about our spouse grow into a belief that our spouse is inferior to us and is insignificant. In this episode we share about the dangers of contem

Episode 133: You're So Defensive! (The Four Horsemen Part 2)

Apr 09 2024 32 mins

This is our second episode in our series on Gottman’s 4 horseman as we tackle to the topic of defensiveness. When the horse of defensiveness is running wild in our marriage, we go into self-protection mode and refuse to take responsibility for our behavior. In this episode we’re sharing our struggle with defensiveness and some of the ways to combat it. Gottmans' Four Horsemen

Episode 132: You Always You Never (The Four Horsemen Part 1)

Apr 02 2024 30 mins

This episode is our first in a series where we are discussing the Gottmans’ work on the “Four Horsemen”: the four conflict patterns that can cause damage in our relationships and marriages. We’re starting with criticism, which is bringing up a concern by describing our partner (You always you never) and attacking them as a person. When the horse of criticism is running wi

Episode 131: What Makes You Smile?

Mar 26 2024 14 mins

Every week, we love to share the stories behind our smiles. We talk about how we pursue connection and find joy even in the struggle. But we know that you have a story behind your smiles, as well! Have you and your spouse overcome obstacles in your marriage? Is there a time God intervened in an otherwise hopeless situation? We’d love to hear about it! We’re handing you th