Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

This is a recording from the Facebook Live on Friday when we had a little story time! I thought y'all would benefit from it too. I share a memory from a dark period of time for me (Mother's Day 2017), and then tie it together with this week's theme. I hope you love it. ♥️ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beyondthehighroad/messa

In episode 84 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the challenges and emotions surrounding family-oriented holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day, especially for target parents of alienation. Shelby shares personal anecdotes about the significance of these holidays and the memories associated with them, reflecting on how such times can be

The dreaded deed of forgiveness: the original ”F” word, to an alienated parent. In this episode, Shelby shares insights on the pivotal role of forgiveness in healing from the pain parental alienation. She discusses the efficacy of family systems therapy over reunification therapy, drawing from advice received from a former attorney. The episode delves into the complexities of

I remember the first time I heard about reunification therapy... I thought, "OMG, FINALLY! There is a reasonable action to counter to all the damage that has been done! " . I was thrilled by the notion that maybe, just maybe, my case would begin to turn around. After a little research (and a lot of legwork), I was able to have a judge order the therapy for my daughter and

Do you feel chained to the painful memories of your custody situation? Like youre obligated to tell and re-tell the same old stories about the same old incidents in order to make sense of WHY this has all happened? Even if you made a deciosjojn to drop it and move on, do you find yourself feeling blocked or stuck as a result of the power your ex holds over your life? I did. I was

Do You Self-Erase? I believe that the people and experiences we attract into our lives are a direct reflection of how we think & feel about ourselves on the inside… We can only connect with the same level of energy that we are putting out… you know? Continuing on from last week, I truly believe that.. due to our individual histories, we already learned to be comfortable wi

Ever notice that, when caught in the clutches of a stressful moment, how you freak out and do exactly the opposite of: what you really want to do what is in your best interest, and/or what supports your goals and dreams? Like, in the moment, you know what you want longterm, but you just can't seem to stop yourself from choosing the unhealthy option, even tho you know its ult

If you've been down the research rabbit hole of alienation's long-term effects on children, you're well aware of the toll it could take on their cognitive development. Similarly (tho your brain may have been fully developed when your children were born), parents like us also experience a dulling of our critical thinking and deductive reasoning skills; which makes it mo

We spend our lives running, trying to circumnavigate situations that seem scary. It starts in school... we don't want to feel rejection. Hurt. We shudder at the idea of being made a fool or taken advantage of. Instead, we hide ourselves away, build up all these walls in effort to avoid emotional pain. Then, when the alienation begins... seemingly overnight, we feel an influx o

We, as parents experiencing alienation, know isolation. We know lonely. Heck... it's right there in the two word term! When alienation begins, it doesn't only affect your role in your child's life -- in fact, the predicament we've found ourselves in affects so many other relationships. Until recently, your children were intertwined with your entire life! So it mak