Bare Marriage

Mar 06 2025 290 ep. 54 mins 1k
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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

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Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!

Mar 06 2025 57 mins  
Send us a text It's episode 273 of the Bare Marriage podcast! We found that certain beliefs are correlated most with emotional immaturity--passive aggressiveness; outbursts of anger; emotional dysregulation. In our research for our book The Marriage You Want, we found that when couples believe the husband should have the tie breaking vote, they score lower on maturity. Is this beca

Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!

Feb 27 2025 41 mins  
Send us a text What if the "acts of service" love language is masking something else--the totally unequal division of labor that many couples have, and Gary Chapman ignores? Plus does the "physical touch" love language mask something wrong in the bedroom? ALL NEW BONUS STATS today! Some of them aren't even in the new book! PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Pre-Order on AmazonGet other

Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)

Feb 20 2025 57 mins  
Send us a text PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Pre-Order on AmazonGet other links to Pre-OrderSend in your preorder receipt to [email protected] SUPPORT US Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our cour

Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?

Feb 13 2025 75 mins  
Send us a text Prioritizing your marriage can be tough. How do we spend enough time together? Do we need more date nights? And MOMS—don’t forget to be a wife first and a mom second! But in all this talk, are we missing the bigger point? If we’re functioning as a team, doing life together, then affection will grow. But if you see your kids as threats to your marriage, or think

Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work

Feb 06 2025 54 mins  
Send us a text Ever tried to find a compromise when you’re having an argument—but even the compromise doesn’t seem fair? In today’s podcast we explain why—using what we call The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs. We talk about this in our new book The Marriage You Want! Basically, compromise only works if you both start off on equal footing. But if one of you is already doing m

Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!

Jan 30 2025 58 mins  
Send us a text What is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving conflict—everything! But complementarianism, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad outcomes. Good outcomes and bad outcomes tend to travel together—and complementari

Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires

Jan 23 2025 67 mins  
Send us a text In our research looking at marital and sexual satisfaction among evangelicals, we’ve found that over and over again our best-selling books, and our megachurch pastors, teach things that are shown to lead to worse outcomes. Why? What’s going on? In today’s podcast we share the faulty premise that is at the heart of evangelical marriage advice, and the four toxic

Episode 266: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)

Jan 16 2025 98 mins  
Send us a text The idea that men need respect while women need love has been treated as gospel truth in the evangelical world. Best-sellers have been written based on it; it informs almost every marriage sermon. What if it’s not true? Using data from our marriage survey of 7000 people, we show how reality is very different—and what this means for how we should talk about marria

Episode 265: Culture Wars vs. Jesus: How to Not Get Sucked in To Toxic Teachings

Jan 09 2025 63 mins  
Send us a text So many of us got sucked into believing toxic stuff about marriage and sex in the evangelical church! But unless we figured out WHY we believed that, we’re likely to get suckered in again to toxic stuff—just DIFFERENT toxic stuff. So today, Rebecca and I are doing a postmortem, looking at what it is about church that leaves us vulnerable to believing things that

Episode 264: It’s the Peer Reviewed Celebration! Plus a Plea to Respect Science

Dec 19 2024 81 mins  
Send us a text Our big announcement: We’re peer-reviewed! Our dataset for The Great Sex Rescue has now appeared in the November 2024 Sociology of Religion Journal. So let’s talk about what we found, but also ask: why are evangelicals so quick to dismiss science, but at the same time cling to bad interpretations of data if it suits their agenda? Can we become better critical thi