Bare Marriage

Jan 30 2025 285 ep. 54 mins 1k
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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

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Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!

Jan 30 2025 58 mins  
Send us a textWhat is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving conflict—everything! But complementarianism, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad outcomes. Good outcomes and bad outcomes tend to travel together—and complementaria

Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires

Jan 23 2025 67 mins  
Send us a textIn our research looking at marital and sexual satisfaction among evangelicals, we’ve found that over and over again our best-selling books, and our megachurch pastors, teach things that are shown to lead to worse outcomes. Why? What’s going on? In today’s podcast we share the faulty premise that is at the heart of evangelical marriage advice, and the four toxic

Episode 266: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)

Jan 16 2025 98 mins  
Send us a textThe idea that men need respect while women need love has been treated as gospel truth in the evangelical world. Best-sellers have been written based on it; it informs almost every marriage sermon. What if it’s not true? Using data from our marriage survey of 7000 people, we show how reality is very different—and what this means for how we should talk about marriag

Episode 265: Culture Wars vs. Jesus: How to Not Get Sucked in To Toxic Teachings

Jan 09 2025 63 mins  
Send us a textSo many of us got sucked into believing toxic stuff about marriage and sex in the evangelical church! But unless we figured out WHY we believed that, we’re likely to get suckered in again to toxic stuff—just DIFFERENT toxic stuff. So today, Rebecca and I are doing a postmortem, looking at what it is about church that leaves us vulnerable to believing things that a

Episode 264: It’s the Peer Reviewed Celebration! Plus a Plea to Respect Science

Dec 19 2024 81 mins  
Send us a textOur big announcement: We’re peer-reviewed! Our dataset for The Great Sex Rescue has now appeared in the November 2024 Sociology of Religion Journal. So let’s talk about what we found, but also ask: why are evangelicals so quick to dismiss science, but at the same time cling to bad interpretations of data if it suits their agenda? Can we become better critical thin

Episode 263: Even After Everything—Loving Anyway, Despite the Risks

Dec 12 2024 58 mins  
Send us a textAdvent is normally a time of hopeful expectation. But what does it mean when our hopes have been dashed in the past? Stephanie Duncan Smith shares her stories of miscarriages and losses—as well as great celebrations, and what it means to embrace a life that is really messy. And we look at how we can celebrate the Incarnation by being Jesus’ hands and feet, seeing

Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans

Dec 05 2024 94 mins  
Send us a textJimmy Evans started XO Marriage over 30 years ago, and his book Marriage on the Rock became a best-seller. He leads marriage conferences around the country. But for years he also Mark Driscoll on his leadership team. He got his start at Gateway Church under Robert Morris, who has been accused of grooming and sexually abusing a teen girl, starting when she was 12. And

Episode 261: Her Rites: The 6 Rites of Passage in a Woman’s Life feat. Christy Bauman

Nov 27 2024 78 mins  
Send us a textEver feel like your body is a stranger to you? Like you’re plagued with insecurity, can’t find peace in your relationships? What if it’s because we’re running away from part of who we are, and we haven’t been able to honor who God made us to be? Christy Bauman, a licensed therapist, noticed in her counseling that her clients often didn’t have a clear ident

Episode 260: Shame Must Switch Sides: It’s Not Shameful to NOT Want Pornified Sex

Nov 21 2024 71 mins  
Send us a textGisele Pelicot famously said that "shame must switch sides"--and I think that applies to the evangelical church! Over and over again over the last few years ,when male teachers have presented a pornified view of sex and women have said "no", women have been accused of being prudes. But it is okay to reject objectification. A close look at Josh Butler, Gary Thomas coer

Episode 259: Avoiding Power Struggles with Your Kids (Plus are you an unintentionally permissive parent?)

Nov 14 2024 68 mins  
Send us a textDo you find yourself in constant power struggles with your kids? Do you feel like your kids too often set the terms of their cooperation? Or are you worried that you are too hard and demanding on them? Well today I talk with Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting coach, as we get into the nitty gritty of how to find that balance between being authoritarian and overly perm