Case Files of a Fool for Love

Mar 27 2022

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Join me as I chat with you about my strange adventures in romance and non-monogamy and expanding my definition of love - starting from my strict fundamentalist Christian upbringing all the way through to where I am today, practicing relationship anarchy and still trying to figure life and love out bit by bit. Expect frank discussions of religion, trauma, monogamy, and of course sex. I hope you'll have fun here and most of all, I hope you'll join the conversation!

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