The Mindful Modern Mistress uses a story from a social media post about a husband who is gone 77% of the time to illustrate the importance of love as an action, rather than an object. The writer argues that the husband's constant absence in the relationship is unethical, as he is not fulfilling his vows to his wife, while expecting her to meet his needs. The piece also highlights the societal bias against women who stray from monogamy, as well as the often-unacknowledged conditions of relationships, suggesting that love requires both parties' active participation to thrive.