How to Do It with Stoya and Rich

Mar 27 2022 30 ep. 22 mins 3.2k

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For three years, Stoya and Rich Juzwiak have been giving advice to Slate readers on all things sex—mismatched libidos, secret desires, (bad) sexting, surprising fetishes, and assorted other wild things. Now they're joining forces to answer their most jaw-dropping questions yet, sometimes with the help of special guests. Whatever you want to know about sex—truly, whatever—they'll tell you how to do it.

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My Boyfriend Loves Dirty Talk. But He Doesn’t Say the One Thing I Want.

Mar 27 2022 27 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer whose partner isn’t saying the right things, and they discuss a letter from a woman who can’t bear to touch herself. Mentioned in this episode: My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein *** Continue following Rich and Stoya and their How to Do It column on Slate here. Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

My Husband Went on a Date With His Ex-Girlfriend

Mar 20 2022 13 mins

Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a woman whose experiment with “ethical non-monogamy” isn’t going the way she expected. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Pr

No One Tells You What Happens When You’re Suddenly a Hot Guy

Mar 13 2022 15 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a man whose attractiveness is getting in the way of his life and work. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by

I’m Overwhelmed by My Boyfriend’s Sexual Demands

Mar 06 2022 24 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who is overwhelmed by her partner’s daily sexual needs, and they discuss a letter from a man who wonders if his post-sex feelings are normal. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. R

The One Thing My Partner Desires in Bed Makes Me Gag

Feb 27 2022 26 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who wonders what they can do to have a better experience giving oral sex, and they discuss a letter from a woman looking for advice on how to explain her specific dating needs. Mentioned in this episode: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex a

I’m a Woman With a Very Male Sex Problem

Feb 20 2022 24 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich advise a woman whose partner complains that she orgasms too quickly, and they discuss a letter from a woman who’s puzzled by why her boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex very often. Mentioned in this episode: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner *** Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign

The Simple Way to Have Better Sex After Marriage

Feb 13 2022 24 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter for Valentine’s Day from a man who’s looking for tips on how to spice up his sex life with his wife, and they discuss a letter from a man who’s wondering how to involve himself with his wife’s other relationship. Mentioned in this episode: Curious Pleasures by The Reverend Dr Eramus St Jude Croom DD *** Slate Plus members get anothe

I (Unfortunately) Know What My Husband Has Been Doing in Garage

Feb 06 2022 27 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who’s worried about her husband’s secret habit, and offer suggestions for oral sex to a letter writer who has a unique problem. Mentioned in the episode: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing? Moody Bitches by Julie Holland “TMJ and Intimacy” by S. Michael Plaut

I’ve Only Just Discovered What Really Turns Me On. But What Is This Even Called?

Jan 30 2022 34 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s just made a new sexual discovery about himself. Then they hear from a woman who’s feeling judged for her boundaries. Guest: Ryan Scoats Mentioned in the episode: ‘I don’t mind watching him cum’: Heterosexual men, threesomes, and the erosion of the one-time rule of homosexuality. Understanding Threesomes by Ryan Sc

What Everyone Gets Wrong About Herpes

Jan 23 2022 33 mins

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who has a tricky question about herpes and a new man she’s seeing. Then they hear from a man who didn’t like the surprise he got in bed. Mentioned in this episode: “How Herpes Became a Sexual Boogeyman,” by L.V. Anderson, Slate, Dec. 2, 2019. Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Mon