If I Speak

Dec 09 2024 44 ep. 55 mins 258
If I Speak Podcast artwork

Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean sort the personal from the political, tackle listener dilemmas and air their opinions on the frustrations of modern life.

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42: Why won’t they just break up?

Dec 09 2024 53 mins  
[Updated file!] Moya has a theory for Ash about unhappy couples who will do anything except break up. Why are we sometimes so hesitant to pull the plug? Plus, advice for a special one dealing with guilt after the end of a relationship. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

41: When do good habits become dark obsessions?

Dec 02 2024 61 mins  
Moya and Ash tackle a mystery question about breaking bad habits, with a frank discussion about open relationships, exercise and disordered eating (content warning). Plus, a listener with a question about cross-racial dating, and verdicts on Gladiator II and GNX. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

40: Do aesthetic trends offer clues to political shifts?

Nov 25 2024 63 mins  
Moya has a big theory for Ash about aesthetic trends as a harbinger of the US election results, which prompts a very adult discussion (read: argument) about the purpose of the podcast. Plus a bundle of your Missed Connections, including hotties spotted in Glasgow, Manchester, at the Palestine protest and – where else! – an […]

39: I’m in big trouble! Your dilemmas answered

Nov 18 2024 57 mins  
Ash and Moya tackle another bumper crop of your dilemmas, including a special one who wants to stop mothering her friends, a burned-out student struggling to get back on track, a self-confessed slacker looking for a meaningful career, and an expat looking for laughs. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt […]

38: Why is Andrew Tate’s manosphere so seductive? w/ Matt Shea and Jamie Tahsin

Nov 11 2024 71 mins  
Moya and Ash are joined by the authors of Clown World, a new book exposing Andrew Tate’s grip on his followers around the world, to talk about why patriarchy is so seductive. Plus, advice for a special one who is drowning under their workload. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt […]

37: Do you believe in ghosts?

Nov 04 2024 56 mins  
The veil is thin this time of year, so Moya and Ash tackle a mystery question about the spirit realm. Plus, neighbourhood cat panics and advice for a listener who can’t stand that her friend is a police officer. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

36: Should being a girlboss earn me a break from cleaning?

Oct 28 2024 54 mins  
Ash and Moya wonder why women still shoulder the burden of housework, even when they’re #leaningin to their careers. Plus, a listener who doesn’t know how to deal with his cheating ex-partner. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

35: Help! My scatty friends can’t meet my standards

Oct 21 2024 60 mins  
Are you a Black Cat? Or a #cleangirl? Do you have Main Character Energy? Moya has a big theory about the urge to give ourselves new labels. Plus, a listener who feels like her friends and family can’t meet her standards. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

34: How mean can you be to other people’s kids?

Oct 14 2024 64 mins  
Ash and Moya channel their inner Clint Eastwoods to lament the rise of trick or treating, and consider how to interact with other people’s children. Plus, a listener dealing with confusing feelings after a difficult abortion. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

33: What makes you embarrassed to be leftwing?

Oct 07 2024 51 mins  
Moya and Ash turn the weapon on themselves with a Mystery Question about the lows of being on the left – haters and losers, pyrrhic victories, strategic balls-ups and the rest. Plus, a listener who’s falling out of love just as their partner needs support. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by […]