If I Speak

Jan 27 2025 51 ep. 57 mins 272
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Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean sort the personal from the political, tackle listener dilemmas and air their opinions on the frustrations of modern life.

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49: We need to see more wrinkles on screen!

Jan 27 2025 60 mins  
Ash and Moya discuss women’s changing faces on screen and the intensifying obsession with ageing. Plus: tough love for a Special One who’s getting in their own way. Email your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

48: Is it time to cut off my lying dad?

Jan 20 2025 61 mins  
Ash and Moya tackle a mailbag full of dilemmas, including a committed couple arguing over money, a daughter considering cutting off her dad, and a student struggling to overcome the trauma of rape. Plus: Ash blushes her way through your emails about gay porn. CW: suicide, rape. Resources: https://thesurvivorstrust.org/support-in-your-area Email your dilemmas to ifispeak@novaramedia

47: Is the era of public shaming over? w/ Yomi Adegoke at London Podcast Festival

Jan 13 2025 82 mins  
Recorded live at London Podcast Festival last September, Ash and Moya are joined by Yomi Adegoke – author of The List and Slay In Your Lane – to talk about public shaming. Is the era of the online pile-on over? Plus, our audience of special ones help to solve some listener dilemmas. Email your dilemmas […]

46: Porn is everywhere. How damaging is it really?

Jan 06 2025 75 mins  
What happens when sex becomes an online stunt? Ash and Moya discuss OnlyFans creator Lily Phillips, who challenged herself to have sex with 100 men in one day, and wonder if the radical feminists were right about porn. Plus: advice for a listener struggling to build deeper friendships. Email your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by […]

45: Surviving end-of-year burnout

Dec 30 2024 67 mins  
What has 2024 taught us? Ash and Moya reflect on a year of discomfort and grief, from personal challenges to political setbacks. Plus: what classic dance track does Ash have stuck in her head? Email your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

44. How to deal with people who can’t deal with you

Dec 23 2024 60 mins  
Moya and Ash swerve the fuzzy festive feelings in order to get some things off their chest. Plus, advice for a listener who feels trapped in their happy relationship. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

43: How far would you go to be yourself? w/ Amrou Al-Kadhi

Dec 16 2024 61 mins  
Moya and Ash talk to writer and director Amrou Al-Kadhi about their brilliant debut film, Layla, which follows a young drag queen in chaotic pursuit of self-expression. Plus, advice on how to handle a partner with a porn addiction. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

42: Why won’t they just break up?

Dec 09 2024 53 mins  
[Updated file!] Moya has a theory for Ash about unhappy couples who will do anything except break up. Why are we sometimes so hesitant to pull the plug? Plus, advice for a special one dealing with guilt after the end of a relationship. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

41: When do good habits become dark obsessions?

Dec 02 2024 61 mins  
Moya and Ash tackle a mystery question about breaking bad habits, with a frank discussion about open relationships, exercise and disordered eating (content warning). Plus, a listener with a question about cross-racial dating, and verdicts on Gladiator II and GNX. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.

40: Do aesthetic trends offer clues to political shifts?

Nov 25 2024 63 mins  
Moya has a big theory for Ash about aesthetic trends as a harbinger of the US election results, which prompts a very adult discussion (read: argument) about the purpose of the podcast. Plus a bundle of your Missed Connections, including hotties spotted in Glasgow, Manchester, at the Palestine protest and – where else! – an […]