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It’s Father's Day in the U.S. today and the first Father's Day post-disclosure was rough. Now, two and a half years in, it’s not a big deal but I still struggle with how to label my spouse when she’s not around. Is labeling my transgender spouse a “spouse” enough or is it necessary to add more or less? Here’s how I’m currently working through it. Places to look for

June is Pride Month, a time to raise awareness about the LGBTQ+ community, its history and remembering the Stonewall Uprising, current issues facing the community… and it’s a time to celebrate diversity and acceptance, hope, progress, joy. I love that allyship is strong this month. Let’s explore how one can be a great ally to the LGBTQ+ community this month plus all year.

A main giveaway that someone might be transgender is their voice. Speaking as a transgender person can be daunting and in this episode, I talk to my spouse about her road to sounding more feminine with the help of vocal therapy. Related Resources: American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA): includes list of resources and how to find them Stanford Health Care: LGBTQ+ H

I ask my spouse a few questions about her experience as a transgender woman using public restrooms. Related Resources: Article - The 19th: How You Can Make Bathrooms Safer for Trans and Nonbinary People Resource - Refuge Restrooms: a web application that seeks to provide safe restroom access for the LGBTQ+ community Resource (PDF) - OSHA: A Guide to Restroom Access for Transge

The idea that a transgender person should not be permitted to use a public restroom that aligns with their gender identity is misunderstood and places the safety of a transgender person in jeopardy. This episode touches the surface from my viewpoint as someone who lives with a transgender person. Mentioned and Related Resources: Article - Advocate: Transgender People Confronted

In this episode, I take a moment to share an overview of…you! Several of you have taken time to write to me and it means so much. You, listeners, are a diverse, interesting, wonderful group of people and I appreciate you. More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger YouTube Channel: The Rage The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Wo

Anger is one of the first and lingering emotions that occur when a spouse discloses that they are transgender; lingering as in years. How does one let go of that anger and move forward? In this episode, I offer a few ideas of where to start and it requires being willing to accept that it is time to make changes. Mentioned in this episode: Waiting to Exhale movie: Angela Bassett

After a death in my spouse's family, she has her first interaction with her dad in a very long time. Can someone who is unsupportive about their child's transition come around and realize that transgender people are just people? Possibly. For my spouse, her dad has taken a positive step forward. Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for

My transgender spouse mentioned that she wants to be addressed as female at all times, including our past. For me, it doesn’t feel honest because I have only been married to a transgender woman for two years vs. 13 years with a male. In this episode, we chat about the issue from both perspectives and ultimately, there is no real solution except to take it case-by-case. Places

I ask our 10-year-old son how he is feeling since his male-to-female parent, my spouse, had facial feminization surgery (FFS) a few months ago in December. Judging by his responses, I needlessly worried about how he would do. Resources for Kids & Families: COLAGE Book - She's My Dad Book - He's My Mom Book - No One Owns the Colors Book - The World Needs More Purple People Book