Wait... Am I Toxic?

Nov 24 2024 141 ep. 66 mins 9

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Welcome to AA - Accountability Anonymous! We’re all hot on being progressive and the best versions of ourselves in public, but how accountable do we hold ourselves in private? “Wait… Am I Toxic?” is Fola and Rukiya’s safe space, where Black Brits can feel seen and take a break from cosplay adulting! Join us to talk about the real things we go through privately and the things we’d rather chew denim than share in public.

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139. Why won't my friend just forgive me already!?

Nov 24 2024 67 mins

This week's submitter finds herself in a tricky situation with her best friend. Her best friend says that she's forgiven her for a falling out they had a few years ago, but our toxic submitter is still feeling resentment from her friend lurking! Join Fola & Rukiya to talk about forgiveness, and how not dealing with disappointment in relationships properly can often turn the tables

138. Should I Save Or Should I Go?

Nov 17 2024 63 mins

In this week's episode, Fola and Rukiya help a listener decide whether to take a well-deserved holiday after a tough year or save instead. They dive into the emotional side of spending and why those from less privileged backgrounds shouldn't limit what they can achieve financially in the future. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola

137. My boyfriend is a functioning cannabis addict, what do I do?

Nov 10 2024 60 mins

The line between recreational weed smoker and functioning drug addict is super fine, and this week's submitter fears her boyfriend has crossed it. Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about the complex narrative around weed for Black Brits, and the sometimes overlooked side effects of cannabis use in the UK and our community. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok

136. My friends think I'm being catfished

Nov 03 2024 64 mins

This week's submitter has been with her online boyfriend for a year now... but the gag is, they've never met! Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about whether or not they think her friends' concerns are valid, and their views on finding love online! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's I

135. Ever Wondered Why You Really Drink Alcohol?

Oct 27 2024 80 mins

In this episode, we dive deep into our relationship with alcohol—why we reach for it, how it shapes our social lives, and what it really means to us. We're joined by special guest Amelia Poamz, who opens up about her four month journey without drinking. Together, we unpack the highs and lows of going booze-free, question the role of alcohol in our lives, and explore how choosing

134. One More Year Pon Dem!

Oct 20 2024 51 mins

Fola's gained another year of wisdom, Rukiya has started a new business called Bloom Creations and we've hit episode 134. With lots to celebrate, in this week's episode the girls have decided to give themselves a break and have a free flowing convo without any "toxicity" this week- enjoy! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @

133. Wait... Am I a femcel?

Oct 13 2024 75 mins

It's pretty much the norm to hear women complain about how awful it seems men are in today's society, but this week's submitter is concerned their disdain for men may have become more dangerous than the flippant "men are trash" rhetoric on social media. Join Fola and Rukiya to unpack this week's submitter's concerns about potentially being a femcel... Follow Us: Instagram: @waitam

132. Why should Black women have to choose between love, family and their career?

Sep 29 2024 74 mins

This week’s toxic submitter is a successful Black woman in the corporate world, who is beginning to question if she can truly have it all—a thriving career and a fulfilling family life with a partner who isn’t intimidated by her success. Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into the challenges Black women face when striving to "have it all." Protect Black Women UK Website - ht

131. Why would anyone want to be with me forever?

Sep 22 2024 67 mins

Yes, we're all worthy of love, but how many of us actually believe it? This week we forgot to do our toxic thought, whoops! But we did have an interesting conversation about our experiences with love, the great, the bad and the fugly... as well as our feelings of inferiority sometimes when it comes to receiving love. Join us for a cheeky chinwag that as always, will hopefully make

130. Here's how colourists can still be friends with dark skinned girls...

Sep 15 2024 68 mins

Ever heard the phrase, 'I’m not racist, I have a Black friend'? Well the same logic may just apply to colourism too! Join Fola and Rukiya as they explore the complexities of colourism, discussing how some men who befriend dark-skinned women may still hold colourist views. And together, they unpack why proximity to dark-skinned women doesn’t necessarily mean a man is free from t