What to Say & How to Say It

Apr 14 2025 246 ep. 29 mins 16

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Nina Roesner teaches us how to STOP REACTING in conflict situations, and discover how to RESPOND instead! Conquer people-pleasing, establish boundaries - create authentic relationships! This is how we learn "What to Say & How to Say It".

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245: Are You Creating Drama in Your Marriage? | 3 Toxic Roles You Need to Avoid

Apr 14 2025 31 mins

Welcome to this episode of What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Licensed Professional Counselor Kyle Hargrove! 🎙️ Today, we’re diving into a powerful (and maybe convicting!) conversation: Are you creating drama in your marriage? We’re breaking down the Drama Triangle — the Victim, the Villain, and the Hero — three roles you DO NOT want to play if you’re

244: Breaking Free from the Martyr & Savior Complex in Marriage | Overcoming Victim Mentality

Apr 07 2025 39 mins

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you fix your marriage! Join Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner as they dive into the topic of the Martyr Complex—an unhealthy mindset that can trap us in conflict and distance within our relationships. In this episode, we discuss the signs of a martyr or savior complex, how they show up in our marri

243: 4 Lies That Keep You Stuck in a Victim Mindset

Mar 31 2025 36 mins

Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive deep into the victim mindset and the lies that keep us trapped. We explore biblical truths that help rewire your thinking, build stronger connections, and navigate conflict in a godly way. 2 Corinthians 10:5 – "Take every thought captive and make it obedient t

242: Are You a Villain or a Victim in Your Marriage?

Mar 24 2025 38 mins

Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It! Are you the villain or the victim in your marriage? Or is your spouse? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove and host Nina Roesner dive deep into how these roles play out in relationships—and how your perception shapes everything. We’ll uncover: ✅ The exhausting cycle of victimhood ✅ How villains are creat

241: How to Heal from a Narcissistic Relationship

Mar 17 2025 36 mins

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast that helps you navigate conflict and build a thriving marriage. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue their series on narcissism—this time exploring healing. If you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, you know how challenging it can be to regain your sense of self. Today, we’ll discuss: ✅ The

240: 3 Ways Narcissists Deflect (and What You Can Do About It)

Mar 10 2025 36 mins

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dive into three key ways narcissists deflect — and how these behaviors may show up in your relationships. Whether you've experienced deflection or have been guilty of it yourself, this conversation offers practical insights to help you improve communication, take ownersh

239: How to Handle Narcissistic Behaviors in Marriage

Mar 03 2025 34 mins

We’re tackling the tough and often confusing topic of narcissism — what it really is, what the experts say, and how to handle these challenging behaviors when they show up in your marriage. Are you married to a narcissist — or just dealing with narcissistic behaviors? Either way, you’ll come away with practical, faith-based strategies to help you show up differently, set bo

238: Are You a Narcissist? | How Selfishness Can Ruin Relationships

Feb 24 2025 27 mins

Welcome to another episode of What to Say and How to Say It! Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s becoming more common in conversations: Are you a narcissist? You may have been called one or wondered if you are—but what does narcissism really mean? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Harrove joins us to break it down. We’ll explore the difference between everyday selfis

237: How Inconsistency Erodes Respect in Marriage

Feb 17 2025 27 mins

We often break promises, overcommit, or underestimate the work involved in our commitments—leading to frustration and a loss of trust in relationships. In this episode, we explore how inconsistency affects respect and connection, why follow-through matters, and practical ways to avoid this common pitfall. Download our FREE PDF, 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells, and ta

236: Transform Your Marriage with The Respect Dare | Special Guest Madison Agustini

Feb 10 2025 35 mins

Joining us in today's podcast is Madison Agustini, the leader of the Respectful Wives Club on Facebook, to discuss the book The Respect Dare—a 40-day challenge that transforms relationships by fostering deeper respect and understanding. In this episode, you'll discover: How The Respect Dare can strengthen your marriage The power of daily challenges in changing relationship dynam