Polysophie

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Problemstatement & Learning Goals

Welche Formen von Hierarchien gibt es und welche Implikationen haben (nicht) hierarchisch organisierte CNM Modelle?

• Learning Goal 1: Arten von Hierarchien
• Learning Goal 2: Auswirkungen von Hierarchien (positiv/negativ)
• Learning Goal 3: Gibt es nicht-hierarchische Beziehungen?

Rückblick / Nachtrag: 

• Allgemeines Gleichbehandlungsgesetz: https://www.gesetze-im-internet.de/agg/BJNR189710006.html 

Was sind Hierarchien? 

• https://www.morethantwo.com/primarysecondary.html
  • Context Erinnerung an Poly MeToo; und auch https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com/
• https://www.polyfor.us/articles/who-comes-first-difference-prescriptive-descriptive-hierarchy
• Präskriptiv / Deskriptiv, Power vs priority https://joreth.dreamwidth.org/408917.html

Was ist Beziehungszufriedenheit? 

• Balzarini, R. N., Dharma, C., Kohut, T., Campbell, L., Lehmiller, J. J., Harman, J. J., & Holmes, B. M. (2019). Comparing relationship quality across different types of romantic partners in polyamorous and monogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(6), 1749-1767. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-019-1416-7
• Flicker, S. M., Sancier-Barbosa, F., Moors, A. C., & Browne, L. (2021). A closer look at relationship structures: Relationship satisfaction and attachment among people who practice hierarchical and non-hierarchical polyamory. Archives of sexual behavior, 50(4), 1401-1417. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-020-01875-9
• Beziehungsakzeptanz Skala:
  Lehmiller, J. J., & Agnew, C. R. (2006). Marginalized relationships: The impact of social disapproval on romantic relationship commitment. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 32(1), 40-51. https://doi.org/10.1177%2F0146167205278710
• Beziehungsgeheimhaltung:
  Lehmiller, J. J. (2009). Secret romantic relationships: Consequences for personal and relational well-being. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 35(11), 1452-1466. https://doi.org/10.1177%2F0146167209342594
• Investment Model:
  Rusbult, C. E., Martz, J. M., & Agnew, C. R. (1998). The investment model scale: Measuring commitment level, satisfaction level, quality of alternatives, and investment size. Personal relationships, 5(4), 357-387. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1475-6811.1998.tb00177.x
  Rusbult, C. E. (1980). Commitment and satisfaction in romantic associations: A test of the investment model. Journal of experimental social psychology, 16(2), 172-186. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-1031(80)90007-4
• Sexual Frequency
  Lehmiller, J. J., VanderDrift, L. E., & Kelly, J. R. (2014). Sexual communication, satisfaction, and condom use behavior in friends with benefits and romantic partners. Journal of Sex Research, 51(1), 74-85. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2012.719167
• Couples Satisfaction Index:
  Funk, J. L., & Rogge, R. D. (2007). Testing the ruler with item response theory: increasing precision of measurement for relationship satisfaction with the Couples Satisfaction Index. Journal of family psychology, 21(4), 572. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/299432417_The_Couples_Satisfaction_Index_CSI-4

Was ist Bindungssicherheit (Attachment Theory)?

• Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss, Vol. 1: Attachment. New York: Basic Books.
• Anwendung von Attachment-Framework auf romantische Beziehungen:
  Shaver, P., & Hazan, C. (1987). Being lonely, falling in love. Journal of Social Behavior and Personality, 2(2), 105. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Phillip-Shaver/publication/232513259_Being_lonely_falling_in_love_Perspectives_from_attachment_theory/links/60b4039a45851557baaec1b5/Being-lonely-falling-in-love-Perspectives-from-attachment-theory.pdf 
• Fettes Brot – Jein
• Unabhängigkeit der Bindungstypen zwischen verschiedenen Partner:innen:
  Moors, A. C., Ryan, W., & Chopik, W. J. (2019). Multiple loves: The effects of attachment with multiple concurrent romantic partners on relational functioning. Personality and Individual Differences, 147, 102-110. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2019.04.023 
• Lesetipp zum Thema Attachment in Polyamorie: Polysecure von Jessica Fern https://www.jessicafern.com/ 

Welche Auswirkungen haben Hierarchien? 

• Balzarini, R. N., Dharma, C., Kohut, T., Campbell, L., Lehmiller, J. J., Harman, J. J., & Holmes, B. M. (2019). Comparing relationship quality across different types of romantic partners in polyamorous and monogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(6), 1749-1767. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-019-1416-7 
• Flicker, S. M., Sancier-Barbosa, F., Moors, A. C., & Browne, L. (2021). A closer look at relationship structures: Relationship satisfaction and attachment among people who practice hierarchical and non-hierarchical polyamory. Archives of sexual behavior, 50(4), 1401-1417. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-020-01875-9 

Sind nicht-hierarchische Beziehungen eine Illusion?

• Beziehungs Anarchie Manifesto: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy
• Balzarini, R. N., Dharma, C., Kohut, T., Campbell, L., Lehmiller, J. J., Harman, J. J., & Holmes, B. M. (2019). Comparing relationship quality across different types of romantic partners in polyamorous and monogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(6), 1749-1767. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-019-1416-7
• “Labriola (2003) noted that three types of polyamorous confgurations exist: the primary–secondary model; the multiple primary partners model; and the multiple non-primary partners model.” in Balzarini, 2019, referenz zu: http://www.cat-and-dragon.com/stef/poly/Labriola/open.html
• Beziehungs-Vesperbrettle (Relationship Anarchy Smörgåsbord) https://polysophie.info/glossar/

Für Folge 5: Eifersucht & Compersion

• Glossar Polysophie: https://polysophie.info/glossar/

Problem Statement

Was ist und wie misst man Compersion?

Learning Goals

• Wie grenzen sich Eifersucht und Compersion voneinander ab?
• Wie gehen Menschen mit diesen Gefühlen um?
• Kann ich Eifersüchtig und Compersive gleichzeitig sein?
• Ist Eifersucht immer böse und Compersion immer toll?

Literatur

• Balzarini, R. N., McDonald, J. N., Kohut, T., Lehmiller, J. J., Holmes, B. M., & Harman, J. J. (2021). Compersion: When jealousy-inducing situations don’t (just) induce jealousy. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 50(4), 1311-1324. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-020-01853-1
• Brunning, L. (2020). Compersion: An alternative to jealousy?. Journal of the American Philosophical Association, 6(2), 225-245. https://doi.org/10.1017/apa.2019.35
• De Sousa, R. (2017). Love, jealousy, and compersion. In The Oxford handbook of philosophy of love. https://doi.org/10.1093/oxfordhb/9780199395729.013.30
• Flicker, S. M., Vaughan, M. D., & Meyers, L. S. (2021). Feeling Good About Your Partners’ Relationships: Compersion in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships. Archives of sexual behavior, 50(4), 1569-1585. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-021-01985-y