Jan 15 2025 10 mins
Happiness and joy are two emotions we all (hopefully) know well. But let’s get specific. I’m not talking about the kind of joy that comes from winning the lottery (though that’d be nice). I’m talking about those fleeting, delightful moments, like hearing your favorite song at the grocery store or catching an unexpected sunset.
These “micro-moments of joy” are more than feel-good blips—they’re powerful tools for cultivating long-term happiness.
Want the full scoop? Check out the latest episode of Mental Health Bites (you can listen right here in substack, on Apple, Spotify, or watch on YouTube). Read on to learn how these small sparks of joy can change your life.
The Connection Between Joy and Happiness
Think of happiness as the long-term climate of your emotional well-being, while joy is the short-term weather that shapes your day.
* Happiness is a sustained state of well-being and contentment, influenced by relationships, achievements, purpose, and health. Psychologists categorize happiness into two types:
* Hedonic Happiness: The pleasure you feel from immediate gratification, like savoring a delicious meal.
* Eudaimonic Happiness: Rooted in finding meaning and growth, such as through volunteering or pursuing a fulfilling career.
* Joy, in contrast, is spontaneous and fleeting—those short bursts of positive energy sparked by small, everyday moments: a kind word, a funny meme, a beautiful sunset, or a child’s laughter. Joy comes from the short bursts of positive energy that happen in the moment. It doesn’t require long-term planning or major life changes. Instead, joy is often sparked by small, everyday things.
Why Micro-Moments of Joy Matter
These small moments of joy aren’t just pleasant—they’re foundational and act as building blocks for lasting happiness.
When you intentionally cultivate small moments of joy, you create a ripple effect that strengthens your emotional resilience and adds to your overall sense of well-being. So, while joy and happiness are different in how they show up, they’re deeply interconnected. By focusing on joy, you’re laying the foundation for greater happiness over time. These small moments of joy are vital for our well-being because they serve as anchors of positivity in our daily lives. Research shows that consistently experiencing even brief positive emotions can build resilience, enhance creativity, and lower stress levels.
Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, a leading researcher in positive psychology, describes this as the "broaden-and-build theory." Essentially, positive emotions — no matter how small — help broaden our awareness and build psychological resources over time. In other words, micro-moments of joy are like deposits in our mental health savings account. They accumulate and provide reserves for when times are tough.
The best part? These moments are accessible to everyone. You don’t need wealth, fame, or even large amounts of free time to cultivate them.
You can use tools like The Five Minute Journal to incorporate gratitude into your daily routine. Another option is to build a Joy Jar. This is something I absolutely love.
To create a Joy Jar, find a jar or box and keep it in a visible spot. Each day, write down one small joyful moment on a slip of paper. It can be as simple as a funny meme or the way your dog greeted you. Then, at the end of the week (or month) read through them.
These simple rituals serves as a powerful reminder of the positive experiences that often slip through the cracks. By creating tangible reminders of joy, you train your brain to focus on the good, reinforcing happiness over time.
Your 7-Day Micro-Joy Challenge
Ready to start? Here’s a week-long challenge to help you cultivate joy:
* Day 1: Savor a Morning Moment | Stay present for your coffee, the quiet, or even brushing your teeth.
* Day 2: Tune into Nature | Notice something outside—a tree, the sky, or even a houseplant.
* Day 3: Smile at a Stranger | Studies show this simple act lifts everyone’s mood.
* Day 4: Music Lift | Play a feel-good song and take a three-minute dance break, even in your chair.
* Day 5: Gratitude Snapshot | Mentally or physically capture something you’re grateful for.
* Day 6: Text Someone You Love | Send a quick note of appreciation to someone important.
* Day 7: Reflect on the Week | Take five minutes to write down or think about moments of joy you experienced.
Give this a try this coming week. You can even have a friend do it with you. Even if you do only two or three of these, you’re rewiring your brain for happiness. I’d love to hear how it goes.
If this resonated with you, share these tips with a friend who might need a little inspiration.
To Your Health,
Dr. Judy
Bonus Giveaway to Cultivate Micro Moments of Joy: The Feely Cards!
For another idea to boost micro moments of joy, try The Feely Cards! Written by Nōn Wels, and illustrated by Ess Crossley, The Feely Cards are designed to help kids and adults engage more meaningfully with the wonders of empathy, vulnerability, emotional curiosity, active listening, and other wonderfully feely things. They are excellent tools for therapists, social workers, and teachers!
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About me:
Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and author of Stop Self-Sabotage. An avid researcher and a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award, Dr. Judy maintains a private practice where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations and expert witness work. She is often called on by the media as an expert psychologist and is also a sought after public speaker for universities, businesses, and organizations.
Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute.
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