Dr. Reedy discusses explains complicated and complex grief in the wake of the LA fires. He talks about how no two people are grieving the same thing in the same way. He talks about how when others can’t sit with us in our pain, we feel shameful and inadequate. Conversely, when people can hold our feelings, we can learn to feel and sit with them, and they move through us. He explains that our relationship to grief is our relationship to life. And the pain of our lives doesn’t shrink, we get larger and more capable of holding it.