Feb 15 2024 18 mins
In this episode, we explore the multifaceted landscape of self-discovery and the pivotal role of surrendering and self-acceptance in our lives. We ask the essential question, "Who am I?" beyond the labels and dive into the power of being present in the now, while gently dismantling the hustle culture that often leads to burnout. Discover the liberating joy that comes with embracing life as it unfolds, accepting milestones as they come, and treating ourselves with compassion. We peel back the layers of self-compassion, shedding light on the healing potential of letting go of shame and guilt. We invite you to turn inward, acknowledge your past without judgement, and accept your journey with open arms, stepping into a space of genuine self-discovery and self-acceptance.
Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:
Why can surrendering help us move away from hustle culture and multitasking?
Do we truly have control over our life?
Why should we focus on finding connections with like-minded individuals (or chosen family)?
What does healing and nurturing our inner child involve?
Chapters:
(00:01) Surrendering and Self-Acceptance in Life
We explore the journey of self-discovery and the importance of asking ourselves "Who am I?" beyond our roles and responsibilities. We consider the concept of surrendering as a way to move away from hustle culture and multitasking, examining the role resistance plays in our suffering and how much control we truly have over life's events. We also discuss the power of being present and the joy that can come from accepting our lives as they are, rather than constantly chasing the next milestone.
(04:59) Embracing Self-Acceptance and Compassion
We highlight the role of self-compassion in recognizing our past behaviours without judgement and understanding that we've done the best we could with the knowledge we had at the time. The conversation shifts to the power of letting go of shame, guilt, and pain through acceptance and surrendering, encapsulated by the phrase (and Jodie’s future tattoo?) "Let it be."
(09:36) Surrender, Acceptance, and Setting Boundaries
We explore the journey of confronting and overcoming personal trauma. Jodie shares her own struggle with the shame and pain of experiences she didn't choose and how they infiltrated every aspect of her life. We discuss the importance of acknowledging these feelings, the concept of neutrality in accepting that bad things happen, and the power of choice in either resisting or surrendering to our past.
(12:39) The Importance of Inner Child Work
We discuss the impact of early caregiver relationships, even from the prenatal stage, on our adult behaviours and attachment patterns, such as anxiety and dependency in relationships. We emphasize the importance of various therapeutic modalities like somatic therapy, EMDR, cognitive restructuring, and internal family systems (IFS), highlighting the need for holistic approaches that address both the psychological and the somatic self. The conversation also touches on the importance of self-acceptance, individuation, and honouring our evolving desires and needs, as well as the transformative power of turning inwards to provide self-compassion and to calm internal parts that may be in distress.
(17:00) Healing and Nourishing the Soul
We talk about the importance of acknowledging and understanding the experiences of our inner selves, providing them with the validation and support they might have lacked in the past. We highlight the role of detachment and re-parenting in this healing process, which involves communicating with our subconscious to address and soothe the pain our inner child holds. We also examine the pitfalls of avoidance and how it ultimately fails us, leading to greater issues. The chapter underscores the necessity of confronting discomfort head-on to foster inner growth and well-being.
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Therapeutic modalities mentioned:
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy
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