Jan 16 2024 61 mins
Welcome back to the first episode of the year, with Alan Questel. Alan is a renown Feldenkrais practitioner, teacher and author. I found my conversation with him to be both enjoyable and deeply fascinating. I loved where the conversation went. Alan’s wisdom, authenticity and generosity added so much value to this episode.
In the beginning of our conversation we delved into a myriad of thought-provoking topics inspired by Charles Bukowski's assertion that we often fail to be good to one another. We explored the environmental factors contributing to this phenomenon and how our self-image, deeply intertwined with our self-regard, plays a crucial role. An intriguing discussion began to unfold around the transformative power of physical movement and its impact on our self-perception, emphasizing the importance of moving in ways that resonate positively with us.
We then navigate the paradox of finding it easier to extend kindness to others than to ourselves, underscoring the value of small acts of kindness in enhancing how we feel about ourselves. The conversation shifts to practical steps one can take to aid others and how these actions can catalyze personal growth. We dissect the notion that kindness often starts with small gestures and reflect on the ways we are already kind in our daily lives.
Further, we examine how movement influences our thoughts and feelings, with a focus on its fundamental role in all our actions. The episode highlights the contrasting perspectives of observers and doers, proposing that kindness is born from action, which is inherently linked to movement.
We then shifted the conversation to focus on the things we excel at in our daily routines and how mastering small tasks provides the confidence to tackle larger challenges. The discussion moves to the timeframe required for change, the significance of being present in the moment, and the positive impact of reducing self-criticism.
The episode also offers insights into moments of self-reflection, strategies for evolving into the person we aspire to be in a year, and the potential within us. We delve into the pitfalls of the comparing mind, the tension between reality and expectations, and the quest for purpose.
In another highly interesting shift, we explore Milton Erickson's work on Ericksonian Hypnosis, its implications on depression and perceived lack of choice, and the actions that can lead to meaningful change. We discuss demonstrations of agency, engagement, performance, and the innovative approach of learning differently.
The conversation takes a deeper turn into understanding the context of 'no context', the issues with the 'just do it' mentality, and the art of tolerating discomfort. We examine the impact of false beliefs and how stress can surprisingly offer benefits. This leads to a discussion on the misconception of overnight success and the reality of success being decades in the making.
The episode wraps up with an encouragement to give a bit more in everything we do, introducing our listeners to Alan Questel's insightful work. We highlight his website www.practicing-kindness.com and his book “Practice Intentional Acts of Kindness,” which provide valuable resources for those looking to delve deeper into these themes.
This episode is a rich tapestry of ideas and insights, inviting listeners to reflect, move, and grow in kindness towards themselves and others. It's a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the intricate relationship between our actions, our self-image, and the kindness we extend to the world.
Thank you for listening, enjoy!
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