Jul 24 2024 16 mins
De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish.
It is about understanding what matters personally to you while setting aside other people's opinions and perspectives of what you should be centering in your life.
They are not the authority, and they do not live with the outcome like you do.
You are the authority. You inherent the outcome and consequence of your actions. Thus, you must center yourself if your life is to yield well-being, peace, satisfaction, or whatever else you desire to experience and feel.
Centering yourself means asking, "does this option take me where I want to go?"
It means saying no deliberately to things that don't take you towards the purpose you have chosen for yourself, even when it means ending commitments, disappointing people, or doing things others may not understand.
It means saying yes deliberately to things that do take you towards that purpose, even if it is scary, new, unknown, or you may initially fail.
Centering yourself in your life is how you start experiencing what you want as something you have.
Learn how to do this in today's episode!
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