Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

Sep 25 2024 262 ep. 16 mins 44

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Exploring how we heal and thrive beyond codependency, neglect, and narcissistic abuse.

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Is It Time To Be The Power And Authority Over Your Life?

Sep 25 2024 17 mins

It will be essential, at some point, to admit to and embrace the authority and power you rightly, naturally possess to direct and govern your life.You cannot exit codependency without this vital step, as it will keep you tethered to the power of other people's approval, rejection, disappointment, and agreement.The anxiety of making your own choice, following your own path, even tru

How I View Codependency And The Codependent - Important In Choosing Who You Work With

Sep 11 2024 14 mins

How a therapist, coach, mentor, support community, or even yourself view codependency and codependents directly influences the outcomes, results, and transformation you experience (or don't) in that relationship.This is why it is crucial you're aware of how prospective mentors, therapists, coaches, and so forth view and understand you and the topic you're working with. Today, I sha

The Importance of Identifying And Integrating The Gains In Your Healing

Sep 04 2024 9 mins

The Importance of Gains:What is a gain? It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make. An example: I gained my peace of mind by not going back to the dysfunctional person.Why does this matter? Gains are the benefits we receive with a positive, healthy change. If we let ourselves recognize and magnify the gain, it helps our body adapt and ad

Your Pain vs The Story You Tell

Aug 28 2024 14 mins

Pain vs Your StoryTransformation of a person's pain-filled life to a joy-filled life is the journey of healing and becoming who you truly be. It has three Phases: Survival, Healing, and Creation And in each of these, there is a work we do around identity and one's pain.In the Survival Phase, the pain and the identity are the same. "I am angry!" "I am shameful!" "I am unworthy!" "I

The Burden of Cause

Aug 21 2024 11 mins

Burden of CauseWhat is the "burden of cause"? It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they treated you. When we are enmeshed this way, we will internalize people's behaviors as a reflection of some internal flaw or problem that we then must change. This leads us to believe that the other person will change, too, creating a potent fantasy

Feeling Lost In Other People's Lives, Feelings, Desires? Here's What To Do

Jul 24 2024 16 mins

De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish.It is about understanding what matters personally to you while setting aside other people's opinions and perspectives of what you should be centering in your life.They are not the authority, and they do not live with the outcome like you do.You are the authority. You inherent the outcome and consequ

Knowledge Overwhelm Is Sabotaging Your Healing

Jul 20 2024 11 mins

Knowledge overwhelm is a primary factor in experiencing freeze, procrastination, and loops of stagnation when you're trying to heal from trauma and instability.The mind's ravenous appetite for knowledge is driven by a fantasy that "if I'd only known better, I could have done better". There's a deep assumption that we're lacking something specific and when we find that specific thin

Going Slow - It Is A Must

Jul 18 2024 11 mins

Going Slow - It Is A MustTo heal, we must sloooooow down.To know ourselves, we must sloooooow down.To find direction in our lives, we must slooooooow down.Codependency, trauma, and the culture of "productivity" demands you speed up.You get it done now.Faster! Faster! FASTER! Healing, thriving, having a sense of self, liking yourself, loving yourself, loving others, feeling satisfac

Becoming Your Own Protector To Nurture Secure Attachment

Jul 10 2024 15 mins

Being neglected, being abused, being shoved into the world without guidance, care, shelter, or protection wired our attachment systems to be on high alert and braced for danger.Depending on what feels safest, your attachment system may try to control external things, resulting in anxious attachment.Or it may choose to avoid the threat all together and be needless and "independent",

Emotional Perfectionism: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real things

Jun 27 2024 11 mins

Emotional Perfectionism, Part One: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real thingsI define emotional perfectionism as the rigid habit of feeling what one "should feel" in order to satisfy the real or perceived expectations of others.It is a sub-type of General Perfectionism, where behaviors and expressions are tailored to meet external expectations. This is a codepende